Post by valaki on Apr 22, 2020 23:12:30 GMT
jebkinnison.com/bad-boyfriends-the-book/type-dismissive-avoidant/
I read the first four comments here.
The second comment from the poster of the article made me register here.
"There are people who are aware they don’t want to be close to others and take a conscious lone-wolf stance, like you, but I don’t think that’s as common as buying all the programming that tells people they are supposed to have a partner, and all the expectations and training from their family that they feel they have to try to live up to. It may take a few failed attempts before they know consciously that they simply don’t care much for having a deeply intimate relationship."
Are you for real? Sounds like you got burned by someone who was way less able to get in touch with their feelings and so you plain did not understand their actual internal workings and then it all ended up bad.
Just cause it's ridiculous to call it programming. No, my beliefs are not just "programming" anymore than yours.
No, if my beliefs compel me to go through real hell trying to find my emotions and be able to do a healthy interdependent relationship, then it's not just "programming".
Go fuck yourself if you really want to believe that just due to your own bad experiences talking lol.
It really sickens me to have to see that there are such bullshit going on online about people. Just because we may not understand those people's internal workings all that well.
And then you write a whole book about people you do not even understand all that well? Rhetorical question .....
I read the first four comments here.
The second comment from the poster of the article made me register here.
"There are people who are aware they don’t want to be close to others and take a conscious lone-wolf stance, like you, but I don’t think that’s as common as buying all the programming that tells people they are supposed to have a partner, and all the expectations and training from their family that they feel they have to try to live up to. It may take a few failed attempts before they know consciously that they simply don’t care much for having a deeply intimate relationship."
Are you for real? Sounds like you got burned by someone who was way less able to get in touch with their feelings and so you plain did not understand their actual internal workings and then it all ended up bad.
Just cause it's ridiculous to call it programming. No, my beliefs are not just "programming" anymore than yours.
No, if my beliefs compel me to go through real hell trying to find my emotions and be able to do a healthy interdependent relationship, then it's not just "programming".
Go fuck yourself if you really want to believe that just due to your own bad experiences talking lol.
It really sickens me to have to see that there are such bullshit going on online about people. Just because we may not understand those people's internal workings all that well.
And then you write a whole book about people you do not even understand all that well? Rhetorical question .....
