Unavailable

I think everyone copes differently, due to there own attachment.
Attachment is not set in stone and can change depending on the relationship dynamics.
There is a wealth of info on this forum lots of shared experiences so I would suggest having a good read through some posts.
My personal experience was I reacted very anxiously in my relationship with my ex who showed up unavailable and was a new experience for me.
It triggered me terribly and I did some new behaviours that I had never done before and not behaviours I'm proud off.
It left me feeling unsafe, not good enough and I just didn't have any trust in him because we couldn't communicate properly.
I now realise that I need a man who is emotionally available, emotionally mature and present for me to feel calm and safe.
Someone that doesn't keep triggering my nervous system. So what I've learnt is to find a better suit for me.
Some people might prefer a more unavailable partner because it suits there needs better, but it doesn't suit me.
Do you feel comfortable sharing a little more about your situation?