Post by "Rick" on Mar 19, 2016 13:03:30 GMT
My wife and I have been married for 19 years and I am juts realizing that she is has a fearful avoidant attachment style. She is a beautiful person, inside and out, but is very afraid of closeness and intimacy. From the outside looking in, we have a strong marriage. We are BEST friends and do a LOT of things together. The problem is that my wife LOVES to be around me and craves my attention and wants me to physically be near her, but shuts me down when the closeness becomes sexual. She will also not "let me in" when discussing her emotions. She has NEVER shared her needs, desires or wants. Although my wife is not much of a "talker" to begin with, I'm left to look at her actions to determine her needs and wants. All is not lost. My wife and I have gotten closer in the last several months. After affairs on both of our parts, I think we're moving to a better place. My wife has finally admitted that her issues with intimacy have little to do with me and a lot to do with her. She sees a therapist (I do too) and we both are going to a marriage conference in another month. My wife is pessimistic about her ability to overcome her intimacy issues, but says is willing to continue to try to work on it. My wife requires a LOT of patience. Most days I am optimistic...some days I'm not.
