Post by trevjim on Oct 4, 2017 13:48:06 GMT
When I split with someone who i believe was DA, she would tell me, her family and her friends stuff that isnt true.
for example, she told me I was getting annoyed that she wasnt texting me back quick enough (I wasnt, I hadnt said anything, i hadnt hinted at anything, i hadnt given the impression that i was)
she told me i was being too pushy (Again, I wasnt, to the point where i was so laid back i was worried she was thinking i was using her)
she told me I wouldnt be comfortable with her going on holiday with her sister/friends (again, complete nonsense and something i had never mentioned or even thought about)
She said she isnt ready to move in with someone soon (huh? i hadnt even thought about that)
Those are just some examples she said to me for reasons she didnt think it was going to work, leading eventually to her dumping me.
Another example is she told her Mum i kept getting argumentative and hot headed (we hadnt had a single argument at that point)
I also dated someone who suffered from BPD in the past, and when we split, she did the same things, told lies about me that were not true. for example she told alot of people i cheated on her, something i never did (im pretty sure she did)
Is this a common thing with people with disorders?
I dont know if its either them trying to find a reason to end it, or trying to give justification to others for ending it, or if they have to tell the lies to try and make themselves believe these things?
for example, she told me I was getting annoyed that she wasnt texting me back quick enough (I wasnt, I hadnt said anything, i hadnt hinted at anything, i hadnt given the impression that i was)
she told me i was being too pushy (Again, I wasnt, to the point where i was so laid back i was worried she was thinking i was using her)
she told me I wouldnt be comfortable with her going on holiday with her sister/friends (again, complete nonsense and something i had never mentioned or even thought about)
She said she isnt ready to move in with someone soon (huh? i hadnt even thought about that)
Those are just some examples she said to me for reasons she didnt think it was going to work, leading eventually to her dumping me.
Another example is she told her Mum i kept getting argumentative and hot headed (we hadnt had a single argument at that point)
I also dated someone who suffered from BPD in the past, and when we split, she did the same things, told lies about me that were not true. for example she told alot of people i cheated on her, something i never did (im pretty sure she did)
Is this a common thing with people with disorders?
I dont know if its either them trying to find a reason to end it, or trying to give justification to others for ending it, or if they have to tell the lies to try and make themselves believe these things?
