Hello friends- This is more of a vent/ putting it out there than a question/seeking advice as I know what I did wrong. But all advice/suggestions are welcome. I’m posting on here as I feel the AP in me is rearing it’s ugly head and I do not want to “chase” my FA. After my last post here. My ex reached out again- he found a some clothes of mine (again). The last 2 times he mailed them, this time we met up-i suggested. We met up few weeks ago, catching up, lots of bantering, just like old times. I didn’t bring up any of the stuff that had happened (although it was on my mind). We met up 2 more times for dinner and brunch. Since then we’ve been texting and chatting on phone a quite a bit. But always have this gut feeling that he’s going to pull away again. And sure enough after a day of doing normal stuff- grocery shopping, fixing things around his house, errands etc... complete silence. I know... all the red flags issues are still there-run, run and run faster. I’ve read all your advice, tell myself it’s not good, will not go anywhere but my stupid a$$ can’t help it. Like I have no control. It’s a long post and thank you for reading.
I really don't know why people bring the situation on themselves and then "obsess" about it. You suggested meeting up with him....now you are obsessing about if he's going to pull away. Pull away from what? Seems like you are hanging out a few times. I have done this many times with exes. We catch up, hang out, but it means nothing. It's just something to do.