Getting better at self regulating

So I am finding it a bit easier to sooth myself when I feel sad, scared, angry or embarrassed.....however, I still find myself desiring B at those times because during some difficult times he did provide support....more so then either of my parents.  So I just allow myself to miss him in those moments while recognizing that it really isn’t “him” that I am missing but the way I felt with him...protected, understood, cared for....and I know that I can and will find that in others.