Afraid to damage my relationship even more, help Feb 1, 2021 15:04:17 GMT via mobile
Post by armadillo5000 on Feb 1, 2021 15:04:17 GMT
So I've been in a relationship with this wonderful DA for a year or so. Everything was perfect until recently, because I knew what he was like before we even started talking, so I never asked for more attention and knew that the fact that he was talking to me every day was a miracle. But then I guess he sometimes wanted a tiny bit more space and my anxious nature took over and I started trying to keep things same, so clasic scenario began. He was getting more and more distant and I was getting more and more anxious, then he said he'd like to not call every day, and expalined that it doesn't mean that he doesn't want me anymore, so it was fine by me. We agreed to just have days where we don't call and I was trying to talk about some compromises where we could message more. Anyway, after that I was being quiet for couple days and he initiated the call first, and was very sweet, it was really nice, that really made me feel like everything is perfect. However after that I was still being quiet as I wasn't sure if he wanted to call so I was waiting for him to say it, and he wouldn't say anything too and so we didn't talk at all for a week. Then I sent him a message just asking how he was doing, he replied asking same, but now doesn't reply yet. I don't know what I should do, I don't know how long it's okay to not talk to your partner in this situation, I don't know if I should just keep being quiet or let him know I'm here, or what? I'm afraid to ask him about it because it seems like it would put more pressure on him which I now see he had enough of lately. Or should I apologies for being demanding? What should I do? I don't want to push him away even further. I'm not even anxious anymore, I'm just confused. I know it's a difficult situation and many people would rather just leave but he's worth some efforts and I'm not leaving him.