Post by anne12 on Feb 21, 2021 9:43:17 GMT
Secure:
Ambivalent:
The bodylanguage of the ambivalent:
They articulate a lot with their body, they can use a lot of facical expressions and they can seem very much "alive". You can often watch how their feelings can come out of their body.
Some types of ambivalents can sometimes collaps into tears.
They often lean forward, when they are talking to you. They seek eyecontact ect.
they are very social
They can be very charming
They like to talk about feelings - sometimes they can get overwhelmed by their own feelings
In a conversation they can suddenly remember something they have felt once, and then they can get all comsumed about their own feelings and experiences and they can forget about you and what you were talking about
They can be very emotionel
They can talk a lot or just listen and aks questions
They can be overfocused on you and they can therefore leave themselves
They can be more feminine leaning
They are often more symphathetic leanig
They can talk A LOT
They like to recieve and give an eyegaze and touch
They can be very attuned
They want external regulation
Their attachment system is too ON
They feel they can only settle or get needs met by others
They use many words
They have a lot of emotions
They can have lots of negative complaints
Some can be more quiet and can get sad
Some can be more conplaining and can get angry
They can mix Past/Present
Brain dominance - Stronger on RIGHTemisphere
May flood with emotions
Stuck in Past
Ambivalent can push others away by asking, talking, and overwhelming, especially with avoidant.
They go over-and-over old injuries and can have difficulty letting go, which often wear down those around them.
Ambivalent can lean toward the negative
May over-state their injuries and amplify them
Overly-focused on abandonment
Often creates disharmony with exaggerated responses
Their abandoment fears shows up when they have to recieve (love, care and connection)
Dismissive avoidant:
The energy in their body goes up from their body and up in the head. This can give Them tension around the head and can give them a headace.
They can seem a little stiff in their body
Some of them dont use a lot of facical expression
They do not express a lot with their arms and hands
They can have trouble feeling their body from their neck and down
You can confuse them with a secure person
They often do not use a lot of words
If you ask how they are feeling, they can get confused
They can have trouble keeping eyecontact
Because they can find it difficult feeling their body, sometimes they can ignore (serious) injuries from doing sports ect.
They cant always feel if they are hungry, so they can look at their watch, to find out if they are hungry
They dont not share a lot about themselves on an emotionel level
They can lean back when you are talking to them
They can talk about something intellectual, practical, they can talk about something that interests them
They can get overwhelmed by other peoples talk, feelings, emotions and questions
They can forget to ask questions
They can be harsh, blunt, have low patience treshold, wants to get to the point of the story
They can give practical advise
They often do not know how to be with their own and other peoples emotions
The avoidant can pull back from the contact. They can be in the same room and be close while checking out of the contact. Their mind can wander.
If you ask them how they are feeling, they have to go up in their head to think about how they are feeling
They can be more masculine leaning
They are often more parasympathetic leaning
They can be in freeze or in funtionel freeze
They are more future focused
They often think that everything has been just fine in their childhood
They use Auto-Regulation
They can be Dissociative
Their attachment System shuts down / their attatchment system is underactivated
They use few words (minimalist)
They might lack emotional vividness
They are factual
They can be positive
They are often visuel and can speak in pictures
Brain dominance - they are more oriented to LEFT hemisphere
They are focused on future (do not talk much about the past or the now)
Desorganied / FA:
There is a lot of energy in their Body from the stomac and up in the upper Body. They can stiffen in their upper body and they can feel very tired. They are used to being alert.
They can feel parts of their body and other parts they may not feel because of dessociation
They can also be very expressive with their face or if they have dessociated they can stiffen and.have.a.pail skin
The disorganised can suddenly jump back when in contact,
They can be "drama" queens/kings
Their mood can go up and down
They can go way out of their window of tolerance
The disorganised can suddenly jump back when in contact, pick a fight or go into collaps/freeze
They can overshare
They can cross their own or other peoples boundaries when in contact
They can touch you without asking
They can be very flitacious
They can be shy
They may be difficult to follow
Challenging to keep on track
They can use start-stop languaging
They can trail off in conversations, and can sometimes be a little confused
They can be very feminine leaning or very masculine leaning
They can be very intense
They can get stuck in a trauma whirlwind
They can be very facinating and almost irresistable to be with
Sometimes they cant talk or hear because they have gone into a freeze state and the cranial nerve to their voicebox has shut down
Their nerveussystem can swing like a pendulum with too much speed from sympathetic to parasympathetic states
They can have fight, flight, freeze, collapse, fawn reactions
They can cry a lot and can be very intence
Sometimes they can talk way too fast
They can warn out their partner with their intence reactions.
Their mood can change a lot. From being happy to suddenly being sad or angry ect. That's because they go into their trauma whirlwind.
They can have a tendency to be late - because they lost their key, they missed their train, they took the wrong highroad ect.
They can be both sympathetic and/or parasympathetic leaning
They can be in a freeze state or in a functionel freeze state
They can lean more da or more ap
Ambivalent:
The bodylanguage of the ambivalent:
They articulate a lot with their body, they can use a lot of facical expressions and they can seem very much "alive". You can often watch how their feelings can come out of their body.
Some types of ambivalents can sometimes collaps into tears.
They often lean forward, when they are talking to you. They seek eyecontact ect.
they are very social
They can be very charming
They like to talk about feelings - sometimes they can get overwhelmed by their own feelings
In a conversation they can suddenly remember something they have felt once, and then they can get all comsumed about their own feelings and experiences and they can forget about you and what you were talking about
They can be very emotionel
They can talk a lot or just listen and aks questions
They can be overfocused on you and they can therefore leave themselves
They can be more feminine leaning
They are often more symphathetic leanig
They can talk A LOT
They like to recieve and give an eyegaze and touch
They can be very attuned
They want external regulation
Their attachment system is too ON
They feel they can only settle or get needs met by others
They use many words
They have a lot of emotions
They can have lots of negative complaints
Some can be more quiet and can get sad
Some can be more conplaining and can get angry
They can mix Past/Present
Brain dominance - Stronger on RIGHTemisphere
May flood with emotions
Stuck in Past
Ambivalent can push others away by asking, talking, and overwhelming, especially with avoidant.
They go over-and-over old injuries and can have difficulty letting go, which often wear down those around them.
Ambivalent can lean toward the negative
May over-state their injuries and amplify them
Overly-focused on abandonment
Often creates disharmony with exaggerated responses
Their abandoment fears shows up when they have to recieve (love, care and connection)
Dismissive avoidant:
The energy in their body goes up from their body and up in the head. This can give Them tension around the head and can give them a headace.
They can seem a little stiff in their body
Some of them dont use a lot of facical expression
They do not express a lot with their arms and hands
They can have trouble feeling their body from their neck and down
You can confuse them with a secure person
They often do not use a lot of words
If you ask how they are feeling, they can get confused
They can have trouble keeping eyecontact
Because they can find it difficult feeling their body, sometimes they can ignore (serious) injuries from doing sports ect.
They cant always feel if they are hungry, so they can look at their watch, to find out if they are hungry
They dont not share a lot about themselves on an emotionel level
They can lean back when you are talking to them
They can talk about something intellectual, practical, they can talk about something that interests them
They can get overwhelmed by other peoples talk, feelings, emotions and questions
They can forget to ask questions
They can be harsh, blunt, have low patience treshold, wants to get to the point of the story
They can give practical advise
They often do not know how to be with their own and other peoples emotions
The avoidant can pull back from the contact. They can be in the same room and be close while checking out of the contact. Their mind can wander.
If you ask them how they are feeling, they have to go up in their head to think about how they are feeling
They can be more masculine leaning
They are often more parasympathetic leaning
They can be in freeze or in funtionel freeze
They are more future focused
They often think that everything has been just fine in their childhood
They use Auto-Regulation
They can be Dissociative
Their attachment System shuts down / their attatchment system is underactivated
They use few words (minimalist)
They might lack emotional vividness
They are factual
They can be positive
They are often visuel and can speak in pictures
Brain dominance - they are more oriented to LEFT hemisphere
They are focused on future (do not talk much about the past or the now)
Desorganied / FA:
There is a lot of energy in their Body from the stomac and up in the upper Body. They can stiffen in their upper body and they can feel very tired. They are used to being alert.
They can feel parts of their body and other parts they may not feel because of dessociation
They can also be very expressive with their face or if they have dessociated they can stiffen and.have.a.pail skin
The disorganised can suddenly jump back when in contact,
They can be "drama" queens/kings
Their mood can go up and down
They can go way out of their window of tolerance
The disorganised can suddenly jump back when in contact, pick a fight or go into collaps/freeze
They can overshare
They can cross their own or other peoples boundaries when in contact
They can touch you without asking
They can be very flitacious
They can be shy
They may be difficult to follow
Challenging to keep on track
They can use start-stop languaging
They can trail off in conversations, and can sometimes be a little confused
They can be very feminine leaning or very masculine leaning
They can be very intense
They can get stuck in a trauma whirlwind
They can be very facinating and almost irresistable to be with
Sometimes they cant talk or hear because they have gone into a freeze state and the cranial nerve to their voicebox has shut down
Their nerveussystem can swing like a pendulum with too much speed from sympathetic to parasympathetic states
They can have fight, flight, freeze, collapse, fawn reactions
They can cry a lot and can be very intence
Sometimes they can talk way too fast
They can warn out their partner with their intence reactions.
Their mood can change a lot. From being happy to suddenly being sad or angry ect. That's because they go into their trauma whirlwind.
They can have a tendency to be late - because they lost their key, they missed their train, they took the wrong highroad ect.
They can be both sympathetic and/or parasympathetic leaning
They can be in a freeze state or in a functionel freeze state
They can lean more da or more ap