I found a website for Thais Gibson. Her personal development school. I took the test and surprise surprise it says my main style is dismissive. 🤔 Anyway I browsed through her tips. One of the tips for being in a relationship with a dismissive is that the partner should try to help the dismissive understand what they are feeling, If I understood it correctly. This idea made me cringe- it seems SO invasive and like a huge boundary violation. My SO is absolutely terrible at interpreting my feelings and (presumptuously ) identifying my internal states and motives, and I hate when he does that. Unless Thais is speaking to a totally secure partner, this seems so off base. And even then. It really struck me as off. So, I wonder what others think? I've seen some of her videos on youtube that seemed pretty on point. Did I misunderstand this? Because if someone was deliberately trying to help me understand what I feel it better be a therapist. Ha. Seriously though.