Post by dfount on Sept 7, 2021 4:36:05 GMT
As an FA, have you ever used a friend(best friend to be exact) of yours to reach out to an ex? (29M)Me and my un-aware FA ex (34F) ended 3 months ago(full NC)..dated for 7 momths. The breakup was very impulsive and I could tell that she impulsively broke up due to being triggered by one of her traumas. Now I personally know my ex(through prior instances) that she is extremely passive/stubborn and would never initiate a reach out in a million years...and neither would I (I, moreso bc I know the relationship has no way to end successfully)
Though, her bestest friend has reached out twice..once after 1 month NC under the ruse of wanting to talk about 'work issues'...and then that topic switched quickly to "anyways, how are you". She asked
After this, we didn't speak again..until she reached out again this past week(3rd month NC)to ask if I wanted to play a game of tennis. I agreed, and then she(the best friend) asked:
"I was going to ask.. are you single? Lol. I have a friend I think you might hit it off with. Not (insert exes name)Lol. Is this weird?"
My response:
"Little out of left field, (insert exes bestfriends name) Lol.
Yes, I'm single..but not really looking for anything like that at the moment. Kinda just enjoying the single life for a bit lol.. I appreciate the offer though"
Im confused..I'm quite passed my ex and our relationship..but find it weird that her best friend would even inquire my dating status/offer to see if I'd like to be hooked up with one of her other friends. I feel like my ex wouldn't give her blessing for that, but maybe I'm wrong?
We had a pretty healthy relationship(she initiated making us exclusive/and professed her love for me 1st/ she also introduced me to her parents,which was a big thing for her).She also stated during the relationship, that she has never been on a relationship this healthy..for 7 months, even through her hot/cold phases..we always kept in contact, hung out every weekend..and we both initiated hangouts and texting 50/50.
For anyone who is FA, have you ever used a friend to reach out to an ex? Would you feel betrayed by said friend if they didn't have your 'blessing' to hook up your ex with someone else? Any input would be great!
Though, her bestest friend has reached out twice..once after 1 month NC under the ruse of wanting to talk about 'work issues'...and then that topic switched quickly to "anyways, how are you". She asked
After this, we didn't speak again..until she reached out again this past week(3rd month NC)to ask if I wanted to play a game of tennis. I agreed, and then she(the best friend) asked:
"I was going to ask.. are you single? Lol. I have a friend I think you might hit it off with. Not (insert exes name)Lol. Is this weird?"
My response:
"Little out of left field, (insert exes bestfriends name) Lol.
Yes, I'm single..but not really looking for anything like that at the moment. Kinda just enjoying the single life for a bit lol.. I appreciate the offer though"
Im confused..I'm quite passed my ex and our relationship..but find it weird that her best friend would even inquire my dating status/offer to see if I'd like to be hooked up with one of her other friends. I feel like my ex wouldn't give her blessing for that, but maybe I'm wrong?
We had a pretty healthy relationship(she initiated making us exclusive/and professed her love for me 1st/ she also introduced me to her parents,which was a big thing for her).She also stated during the relationship, that she has never been on a relationship this healthy..for 7 months, even through her hot/cold phases..we always kept in contact, hung out every weekend..and we both initiated hangouts and texting 50/50.
For anyone who is FA, have you ever used a friend to reach out to an ex? Would you feel betrayed by said friend if they didn't have your 'blessing' to hook up your ex with someone else? Any input would be great!
