Post by intjda on Nov 9, 2017 17:31:48 GMT
Hi everyone, I'm new around here. I have an very challenging experience of a relationship with a fearful-avoidant individual who habitually lies. The lies seems to come when fearing abandonment and seem to be almost automatic, as if losing self-control and self-awareness while fearing the threat. I get the impression that he believes his on lies, at least in the moment, and can add 10 contradictory ad hoc explanation on top of each other to maintain a lie at all costs, until forced to recognize it by some kind of evidence. Is this a common reaction in FA individuals?
The lies can persist over long periods of time, during which they are being repeated in both secure and insecure states.
I also sometimes, but not very often, get the impression that he wants me to find out about his lies. For example he repeatedly asked me to check his phone, despite us having argued just a while before about something kept on it. Another example is Facebook being left open, or even sharing passwords. Does this somehow make sense to an FA? Or is he really convincing himself to the degree of being delusional?
The lies can persist over long periods of time, during which they are being repeated in both secure and insecure states.
I also sometimes, but not very often, get the impression that he wants me to find out about his lies. For example he repeatedly asked me to check his phone, despite us having argued just a while before about something kept on it. Another example is Facebook being left open, or even sharing passwords. Does this somehow make sense to an FA? Or is he really convincing himself to the degree of being delusional?
