Post by cherrycola on Feb 2, 2022 1:28:35 GMT
I'm sorry you are feeling used. I can see the hurt and confusion in what you wrote, that is understandable. When we really like someone who doesn't want the same thing we do, it is a big letdown.
I'm sorry to say this, but even a healthy secure person would likely back away from your behavior. He probably was interested at first, he changed his mind. It doesn't mean he had any bad intentions. His behavior suggests someone who was trying to let you down gently. The best option, no? But it wasn't to be cruel. Dating is a process of finding out about people, evaluating if they are a good fit and moving on if they are not. No one owes us their time.
A better question to ask yourself now, is why are you acting like this? I know you feel you can do better now, but until you explore and heal your attachment wounds you are going to continue to have these same behaviors anytime you have any anxiety while dating.
I would recommend checking this thread out:
jebkinnisonforum.com/thread/1072/healing-anxious-ambivalent-attatchment-tricks
I'm sorry to say this, but even a healthy secure person would likely back away from your behavior. He probably was interested at first, he changed his mind. It doesn't mean he had any bad intentions. His behavior suggests someone who was trying to let you down gently. The best option, no? But it wasn't to be cruel. Dating is a process of finding out about people, evaluating if they are a good fit and moving on if they are not. No one owes us their time.
A better question to ask yourself now, is why are you acting like this? I know you feel you can do better now, but until you explore and heal your attachment wounds you are going to continue to have these same behaviors anytime you have any anxiety while dating.
I would recommend checking this thread out:
jebkinnisonforum.com/thread/1072/healing-anxious-ambivalent-attatchment-tricks