Post by Deleted on Feb 2, 2022 18:26:45 GMT
So, I've noticed I really have a hard time with receiving a lot of spoken word that's delivered quickly, without pauses- and don't want to make the person that is overwhelming to me feel less than, because it's my issue and I want to be open to what they are saying without shutting them out due to becoming overwhelmed.
I really notice it in video talks when the speaker is animated and speaks quickly, most recently in a video posted by krolle. With a video, obviously I can press pause and anne reminds me I can slow the speed (which doesn't occur to me at the time lol. I'll try to remember that.)
I also notice this overwhelm sometimes with my boyfriend who speaks quickly and at length. I'm pretty sure it's related to undiagnosed adhd. He can repeat himself too sometimes. Obviously I love him and don't want to make him self conscious. I have expressed what my wiring does better with- smaller bytes and a chance to receive information more slowly. But we have our innate styles and I don't want to reject his, he tries to be mindful but it's the way HE is wired.
I've found myself consciously relaxing into the moment, being still and recognizing- there is no where to go, nothing to do, I can receive him and his thoughts and words, openly. When I make this conscious shift, I have seen myself as a tray of sand, allowing him to pour himself into me and let his words saturate me, go between all the grains. So his words can flow into me and I am still and relaxed and ok. This is in contrast to becoming a stone with him splashing off of me, if you will.
I hope he notices that I am working on receiving him better. He seems to be, but I don't want to bring it up at this point because I know he feels self conscious of it. But I notice a change in me, and it feels warm and more connected and more gracious if you will. I did this recently in the car when we were on our way to enjoy ourselves and that's when I noticed there has been a change in how I am able to receive him when he's a bit amped up.
I dont fault myself for the overwhelm. I don't fault others for speaking in a way I find overwhelming. I think I overwhelmed people when I was younger, actually using words as a wall to hide behind. I don't think he's doing that, I don't think that the youtubers sharing info are doing that. Just saying that for different reasons we all may express in ways that are challenging for others at times.
So, I'm sharing this idea for anyone else that might have the issue of being overwhelmed by what feels like verbal overload. I know it's a DA thing, maybe also an HSP thing, and sometimes anyone could feel this way depending on the speaker. Also, would appreciate to hear your own work in this area, to be able to be in command of your inner self and remain present when you experience it. It's like bridging across the river of words to maintain a connection with the person behind it.
I really notice it in video talks when the speaker is animated and speaks quickly, most recently in a video posted by krolle. With a video, obviously I can press pause and anne reminds me I can slow the speed (which doesn't occur to me at the time lol. I'll try to remember that.)
I also notice this overwhelm sometimes with my boyfriend who speaks quickly and at length. I'm pretty sure it's related to undiagnosed adhd. He can repeat himself too sometimes. Obviously I love him and don't want to make him self conscious. I have expressed what my wiring does better with- smaller bytes and a chance to receive information more slowly. But we have our innate styles and I don't want to reject his, he tries to be mindful but it's the way HE is wired.
I've found myself consciously relaxing into the moment, being still and recognizing- there is no where to go, nothing to do, I can receive him and his thoughts and words, openly. When I make this conscious shift, I have seen myself as a tray of sand, allowing him to pour himself into me and let his words saturate me, go between all the grains. So his words can flow into me and I am still and relaxed and ok. This is in contrast to becoming a stone with him splashing off of me, if you will.
I hope he notices that I am working on receiving him better. He seems to be, but I don't want to bring it up at this point because I know he feels self conscious of it. But I notice a change in me, and it feels warm and more connected and more gracious if you will. I did this recently in the car when we were on our way to enjoy ourselves and that's when I noticed there has been a change in how I am able to receive him when he's a bit amped up.
I dont fault myself for the overwhelm. I don't fault others for speaking in a way I find overwhelming. I think I overwhelmed people when I was younger, actually using words as a wall to hide behind. I don't think he's doing that, I don't think that the youtubers sharing info are doing that. Just saying that for different reasons we all may express in ways that are challenging for others at times.
So, I'm sharing this idea for anyone else that might have the issue of being overwhelmed by what feels like verbal overload. I know it's a DA thing, maybe also an HSP thing, and sometimes anyone could feel this way depending on the speaker. Also, would appreciate to hear your own work in this area, to be able to be in command of your inner self and remain present when you experience it. It's like bridging across the river of words to maintain a connection with the person behind it.
