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Post by Deleted on Nov 16, 2017 14:18:27 GMT
I am very certain my Guy is either FA or DA. I can’t quite figure out which one though. What is the major differences. My guy is married— I’m sorry to state this but, I dated him before her and he has always kept me in his life. For the past 3 years our relationship has grown immensely. We recently became intimate- not all the way. I love him and he has admitted to me after I have pushed him into talking about feelings has admitted he loves me too. I am very confused by the relationship. I try to accept what we have but at times my emotions and feelings get the best of me. I wonder, is cheating a symptom for FAs and DAs!? Do they really love or is this all an act? He seems very genuine and aware of his behaviors but we don’t talk about it. We go through the push/pull/control issues every 6 months or so. I am looking for help.
Thank you.
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Post by leavethelighton on Nov 17, 2017 2:34:58 GMT
Well it is possible for people to have feelings for more than one person at a time. But if he isn't in an 'open marriage,' it does seem like you are likely his way of avoiding being truly close to his wife. And maybe her with you... Intellectually you probably realize he is unlikely to leave her for you, but I realize that emotionally it could be hard to accept that.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 26, 2017 12:59:26 GMT
Thank you for your response. I was hoping that he would leave her but, those hopes are fading. I have broken it off with him over a week ago and don’t plan on going back although it is hard when you have become used to the person in your life. I feel deceived finally finding about his dark deep issues. I can’t believe people are like this. I can’t believe they detach and can’t get close intimately and emotionally on the next level. It’s so so strange to me because it’s so normal for me. It’s how we grow and continue to connect with human beings. Anyway thank you so much.
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