Post by pagesal on Nov 16, 2017 20:53:57 GMT
My ex boyfriend started out being very loving and shy. He is a good and kind person but does not trust women for reasons I don't know. He is very avoidant. Very insecure.
Before we broke up he was starting his new business. He is a very successful entrepreneur. I think the breakup was related to the stresses from this. he was not so happy with his business set up because it was as he put it "more work than he realized"..... He started to treat me pretty badly which was unlike him. What I am most upset about is something that I have a hard time speaking of. He got upset with me over something small and lost his temper one night. I took too long to finish getting ready. He was bent out of shape over it. We were laying in bed that night and I jokingly asked him if he still loved me. He paused and said no. I went to his den and slept on the floor and he came out in the middle of the night and apologized. He pulled on my arm to guide me back to his room. We fell back asleep and he wrapped his arms around me. The next morning I woke up because he was massaging my back. He started to get intimate and initiated sex. I asked him why he wanted sex if he suddenly didn't love me anymore. He said he thought sex was a good way to fix our problems because we always get along so well afterwards.
We ended up breaking up one month later because his business took over his life. He said he still wanted to talk to me and have me in his life. He said that I was one of the most important people in his life. I didn't talk to him for 2 months after that because I tried to get over him. We ran into each other at the airport of all places. I told him that I wish we had talked more over the last months, and he said he wished we had talked more also. We saw a movie a week later and started to hang out again. One week he was very stressed from work, but we had plans. He forgot to get back with me about our dinner we had planned. I stayed calm but was upset. I texted him the next night at 10pm reminding him that he forgot to text me back about our plans. He lives 90 minutes away from me and he responded immediately and said he would drive over immediately to see me. I told him that was ok because I didn't want him to drive over an hour at 10pm.
We saw each other the next weekend and he seemed really depressed and looked unhealthy and more quiet than usual. His sister just got married and I saw the pictures on facebook. He was barely smiling in all of them. It looked forced.
Was he feeling guilty and that's why he spent time with me?
Before we broke up he was starting his new business. He is a very successful entrepreneur. I think the breakup was related to the stresses from this. he was not so happy with his business set up because it was as he put it "more work than he realized"..... He started to treat me pretty badly which was unlike him. What I am most upset about is something that I have a hard time speaking of. He got upset with me over something small and lost his temper one night. I took too long to finish getting ready. He was bent out of shape over it. We were laying in bed that night and I jokingly asked him if he still loved me. He paused and said no. I went to his den and slept on the floor and he came out in the middle of the night and apologized. He pulled on my arm to guide me back to his room. We fell back asleep and he wrapped his arms around me. The next morning I woke up because he was massaging my back. He started to get intimate and initiated sex. I asked him why he wanted sex if he suddenly didn't love me anymore. He said he thought sex was a good way to fix our problems because we always get along so well afterwards.
We ended up breaking up one month later because his business took over his life. He said he still wanted to talk to me and have me in his life. He said that I was one of the most important people in his life. I didn't talk to him for 2 months after that because I tried to get over him. We ran into each other at the airport of all places. I told him that I wish we had talked more over the last months, and he said he wished we had talked more also. We saw a movie a week later and started to hang out again. One week he was very stressed from work, but we had plans. He forgot to get back with me about our dinner we had planned. I stayed calm but was upset. I texted him the next night at 10pm reminding him that he forgot to text me back about our plans. He lives 90 minutes away from me and he responded immediately and said he would drive over immediately to see me. I told him that was ok because I didn't want him to drive over an hour at 10pm.
We saw each other the next weekend and he seemed really depressed and looked unhealthy and more quiet than usual. His sister just got married and I saw the pictures on facebook. He was barely smiling in all of them. It looked forced.
Was he feeling guilty and that's why he spent time with me?
I would accept occasional respite and separation but not this extreme.