Post by Deleted on Nov 25, 2017 22:20:06 GMT
Does anyone have any ideas they would like to share re a possible link between DA/fA behaviours and alcohol abuse?
I spent a good while in denial about my ex's excessive drinking - it was way beyond normal social drinking - on average a bottle or two of wine each night, even if home alone. When we were together he initially stopped drinking altogether, but having just been out socially I've realised he's now drinking again - alot.
Could this be part of his self confessed tendency to want to run away from reality?
Feeling pretty good this evening - my avoidant tendencies usually make me want to avoid situations that are stressful ie seeing him - but having taken the bull by the horns recently I have realised that being happy or not is essentially my own choice - and that in avoiding him I am compromising my freedom. I acknowledged the feelings of discomfort but did it anyway - spoke to him, with kindness and politeness and then went my own way. Onwards and upwards!
I spent a good while in denial about my ex's excessive drinking - it was way beyond normal social drinking - on average a bottle or two of wine each night, even if home alone. When we were together he initially stopped drinking altogether, but having just been out socially I've realised he's now drinking again - alot.
Could this be part of his self confessed tendency to want to run away from reality?
Feeling pretty good this evening - my avoidant tendencies usually make me want to avoid situations that are stressful ie seeing him - but having taken the bull by the horns recently I have realised that being happy or not is essentially my own choice - and that in avoiding him I am compromising my freedom. I acknowledged the feelings of discomfort but did it anyway - spoke to him, with kindness and politeness and then went my own way. Onwards and upwards!