First and maybe last post... let's see Apr 27, 2022 13:03:11 GMT via mobile elizabeth and introvert like this
Post by sorgin on Apr 27, 2022 13:03:11 GMT
Thank you... Have got this (probably misguided) hope that this knowledge will push me further into the process of accepting that this is all definitely, definitely over this time and help me to move on. Just now it feels like a major set-back in my healing, and I'm actually just really angry and hurt, but as with all the emotions, I know it'll eventually pass.
Whether it works or not with this new person is something I'm going to have to find a way to not put energy into... the truth is it might work, and I need to not make that a reflection of me. He's a good guy wrapped up with some very unhealthy layers... but a certain type of person might be able to ignore the layers and work with him exactly as he is. That's up to them to figure out. His relationships have got nothing to do with me now.
The disrespect of posting about her hours after breaking up with me and knowing I would see it is just insane... and the fact that I can now see that he was gaslighting me in his reasons for breaking up, as he really tried to blame it all on me. Those things are what I feel angry about.
You got reason to feel angry about it, no matter whether he is a good person or not, his acts are blameworthy. I think it's pretty normal to feel a set-back. In regard to what you say about knowledge... I can relate to this, some people here told me so, because it is at a subconscious level it doesn't matter how much knowledge you got on AT or selfknowledge. But how to deal with this pain and process it is what it will make the difference. I don't know what else to say, hopefully you'll get an answer from way better skilled members. Sending hugs to you.