rykus9
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Post by rykus9 on Apr 26, 2022 13:14:19 GMT
I see this term used a lot around here and I'd never encountered it before.
What is this term? An undefined relationship?
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Post by introvert on Apr 26, 2022 14:40:50 GMT
It's a confusing entanglement between two emotionally unavailable people, in which the "situation" seems to be the primary obstacle to a real relationship but it's actually perfect for the fantasy and avoidance that the two people engage in to keep it forever nothing but whatever it is, which is not a relationship.
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Post by alexandra on Apr 26, 2022 15:33:35 GMT
rykus9, it usually means people are hooking up and may be going on dates too, but there's no commitment or real momentum moving towards one. There may be an emotional connection, but one or both parties don't want to communicate about it or define the relationship. Often, one party hangs on to the limbo, usually believing it may change if they are patient enough. This can sort of make a certain kind of sense if it's the first couple months since people in the US often don't commit for 2-4 months of dating anyway, but it's usually women believing men are all inherently afraid to lose their freedom and you need to play the cool girl role until they're no longer scared and you've patiently won them over. Though it can be anyone of any gender waiting it out. Usually it is due to emotional unavailability, as was said. It can be another way to say friends with benefits if you don't want to call it that. Except sometimes it's all emotional and there's no hooking up, so then there's nothing else to call it. And there's a fantasy version in pop culture that ends up working out (movies and tv shows about friends with benefits becoming real relationships).
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