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Post by scheme00 on Nov 30, 2017 0:35:06 GMT
I know I'm most cases it's the other end of the DA that's usually gets dumped but I would like to know what it's like when the DA is the one being dumped? I dumped my DA ex after I could not take her push-pull any longer about a month ago. She said I was the nicest guy she's ever dated (heard through friends) and that she didn't know why she was emotionally unavailable. I saw her for the first time yesterday and her behavior was a little strange. We got along just fine and it was so great to see her (I still love her obviously) but she looked a little sad and her behavior wasn't quite normal. I'm moving forward and am making progress but my brain wants to try to comprehend what she thinks since I'm the one who broke it off.
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Post by pagesal on Nov 30, 2017 18:01:58 GMT
I heard somewhere on a youtube video once that they do experience a sense of loss, but they may not register why they feel sad if that makes sense. I took it as their brain doesn't register it, but their body does. This is probably different for different avoidants....but I think there is some truth in this for a lot of them. He did tell me that he wasn't happier because of the breakup but that his brain felt "less scrambled." Two months after we broke up I added a picture to one of my social media accounts. He immediately viewed the picture (I can see who views my pictures on this app) which i felt was interesting because he rarely gets on that app. Just because they don't reach out to get back together doesn't mean they don't have feelings or are attracted to their ex. Like another member posted on this forum recently.. my ex also sticks with decisions once he makes them and will not go back on it. I don't have the perfect answer to your question (somebody else will hopefully answer it better) but this has been my experience and i hope it helps you
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Post by Deleted on Dec 3, 2017 21:52:03 GMT
I broke up twice with my ex and he came back. I think it actually makes them feel more relieved, to the point where they feel "safe" enough to want to get closer to you again.
I can make it fun for him and do it a third time but I've had enough, and I'm friendzoning him for real.
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