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Post by anne12 on May 8, 2022 10:30:39 GMT
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Post by anne12 on May 8, 2022 15:06:01 GMT
Perhaps the greatest gift you can give your mother this Mother's Day is to tell her that you’re grateful of something special she did that touched your heart.
Chances are she felt inadequate as a mother. Maybe she felt rejected and didn't know how to reach you.
If the story you hold about her blocks your vitality, stop telling it. That gift will honor you both.
Mark Wolynn
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Post by Deleted on May 8, 2022 15:12:51 GMT
Perhaps the greatest gift you can give your mother this Mother's Day is to tell her that you’re grateful of something special she did that touched your heart. Chances are she felt inadequate as a mother. Maybe she felt rejected and didn't know how to reach you. If the story you hold about her blocks your vitality, stop telling it. That gift will honor you both. Mark Wolyn I have been reflecting lately on the story I hold about my mother. I notice in small moments through the day I am able to empathize with her, and I tell her "It's okay mom, I understand better now..." (she has passed) I tried all that when she was alive but she wasn't able to access a healthy space with me, she was too blocked by something which may have been a real disorder, I don't know. Anyway, thanks for sharing this. |
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Post by anne12 on May 8, 2022 15:30:14 GMT
@introverttemporary
You can still talk to her….
Healing the feminine
Healing of the feminine
You will need 4 chairs for healing the feminine
They should stand in a square a chair on each side with the front of the chair facing the center.
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Place yourself in one of the chairs
Then invite your mother to sit on the chair on the left side of you.
If you are affraid of your mother, use competent protectors. If your mother is weak, then give her some resources who can stand beside her and who can support her.
Look at your mother and tell her about your hurts, your dissapointments, tell her about the bad things that you have experiended that she has done, do you want to cry infront of her, do you want to yell, do you want to get angry, do you want to kick her.
Then put your mother on the chair to the right side of you.
Then tell her all the good things that you appericiate about her, the good things you have experienced together with her, the good things she has tought you. What do you notise in your body ? What do you want to do - do you want to give kind eyes, a hug, hold her hand ect. ?
Then thank her and ask her to leave the room
Remove the chair on your left side and remove the chair on your right side.
Then place yourself on the opposite chair infront of you
Then “look at yourself” and tell yourself/the woman that you are now / the man that you are now who is sitting infront of you, what you are needing to hear from your own inner feminine ect.
Then switch back to the other chair. Invite the feminine to stand beside you or behind you and let the feminine put supportive hands on your shoulders or on your back or on the outside of your arms. Feel into the felt sensation. Feel the love, the tenderness and the nurishment.
Then let the feminine blend into your body. Notise where on your body the feminine enters your body.
Notise how do you feel now (more soft, more loving, has your heart opend, ect.)
You can contact your inner feminine when ever you need
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Post by Deleted on May 8, 2022 15:33:32 GMT
I am going to try this on my next "me-time" weekend. I think it will be kind of intense so I will make sure I have some space around me.
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Post by anne12 on May 8, 2022 15:43:10 GMT
You can give yourself competent protectors. Maybe you also need some people who can can stand by your mother. Maybe you need them to hold her so that she can’t move ect. And they can put tape on her mouth so that she can’t speak… Maybe you can do the two chair anger exercise with your mother before you do this exercise. You can place her as far away as your body wants to. jebkinnisonforum.com/post/47573/ |
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Post by Deleted on May 8, 2022 15:51:09 GMT
You can give yourself competent protectors. Maybe you also need some people who can can stand by your mother. Maybe you need them to hold her so that she can’t move ect. And they can put tape on her mouth so that she can’t speak… Maybe you can do the two chair anger exercise with your mother before you do this exercise. You can place her as far away as your body wants to. I think this could be very cathartic. |
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Post by anne12 on May 8, 2022 16:02:14 GMT
www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1787132633?linkCode=gs2&tag=verticalscope-21A Mother's Memory Journal: Look Back. Record. Treasure Forever Filled with over 150 questions and prompts to help your mother write about her life (as well as your part in it), this journal can be filled with precious memories, anecdotes and family history. Your mother will then return the completed journal to you as a keepsake to be enjoyed for years to come. The perfect gift for any mother for Christmas, Mother's Day or birthday. This journal also includes a ribbon marker, an internal gatefold for recording your family tree, some blank pages for sticking in old photos or telegrams, and a pocket affixed to the inside back cover for other pieces of memorabilia.
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Post by anne12 on May 8, 2022 16:05:52 GMT
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Post by anne12 on May 8, 2022 16:07:16 GMT
Welcome to the World Exercise:
(all attatchment styles but really good for avoidants)
In this exercise, you create your own version of a perfect, well-celebrated welcome of yourself as a unique being with very special contributions to make to the world.
1) Design your birth, make an internal movie/draw where you wold like to be born ect.
2) Your tribe - who do you want to be there, at your birth - allow them to show up at your birth. Make eyecontact to each person and say hallo and let them introduce them selves to you. Take time to let them see you. Feel and take in the relational field.
3) Having people there who can see your sepcial talent, contribution ect. that you can bring in to the world. Notesing what happens in you.
4) Did your mother needed resources when she was giving birth to you ? Was she alone ? Was she stressed out and scared ?
You can also give your mother some resources - her own mother, her friend, a compassionate doula, your father ect.
5) If your father needed resources, you can provide him resources too.
5) If you were going to be given away, adopted, or your mother dispised you, you can visualize that there are other people standing ready to receive you and take you with them.
The fulfilling and “full-feeling” experience is:
“We are so glad you are here. We have been waiting for you. I celebrate you and your very existence. You have the birthright to exist. I want to be in real contact with you. I welcome you. You belong here. We want you here!”
This Welcome to the World Corrective Experience helps you regain the sense of your existence being celebrated.
(Diane Poole Heller)
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Post by anne12 on May 8, 2022 16:18:58 GMT
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Post by anne12 on May 8, 2022 16:40:02 GMT
All the eggs a woman will ever carry form in her ovaries while she is a four-month-old fetus in the womb of her mother. This means our cellular life as an egg begins in the womb of our grandmother. Each of us spent five months in our grandmother's womb and she in turn formed within the womb of her grandmother. genedoe.wordpress.com/2010/09/29/in-your-grandmothers-womb-the-egg-that-made-you/Wolynn goes on to show how women, in their earliest biological form, as unfertilized eggs, share a cellular environment with their mother and grandmother. When a woman is five months pregnant, the cell of the egg that would become her granddaughter is already in the ovaries of the five-month fetus. This means that when my grandmother was five months pregnant with my mother, I was in my mother’s ovaries. This occurrence—three generations of women sharing the same biological environment—is at the core of intergenerational trauma. It means a grandmother’s emotions and trauma can biochemically alter the genetic offspring of her daughter and granddaughter. We inherit emotions and trauma through epigenetics—changes in gene function that occur without a change in the sequence of DNA. Wolynn references another compelling Yehuda study to show how Holocaust trauma is passed from survivors to their children through epigenetic tags. |
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Post by anne12 on May 11, 2022 5:49:43 GMT
We have just celebrated motherhood and many mothers have received flowers, chocolates and gifts from their children.
Inside all of us lives an inner child that you are also the mother of ....
She is deeply dependent on what you meet her with in all contexts. In many ways, she is the child that your motherhood most strongly influences.
However, this child has a very weak voice, which is expressed through your emotions. If your inner child were to appreciate your motherhood on the occasion of Mother's Day, what would she say…
Your feelings give you the answer to this question ...
Does she rejoice that you have always made her feel, that she was something special.
Does She appreciate all the times you have loved her unconditionally.
And does she remember all the times you have recognized her needs in spite of all the circumstances and to such an extent that you have set everything else aside to understand and meet her right where she was.
Is she grateful for all the times you let her come first, so that today she feels safe, seen, respected and loved and recognized for who she basically is.
Does she feel blessed because every day you hold her gently like a little butterfly while you meet her with the greatest understanding of her starting point and the respect that she needs to grow at the pace that is right for her.
Is she deeply grateful to you because you shield her and never expect her to just bite her teeth together and give more than you would ever expect from any other child.
Is she filled with security and joy, because you have clearly shown her the acceptance of everything she is - among other things by never blaming her for anything, nor for what did not succeed and thus colored life in shades that one might wish to be without.
Does she rejoice that you forgive her always and also for her imperfection.
Take a moment today and meet her - your inner child.
You will find that she loves you no matter and despite what you have offered her.
Her love is unconditional and so is her understanding of everything you have said or done against her.
She is eternally loyal and affectionate to you.
She understands you.
She sees you and she forgives you.
Her unconditional love is the greatest Mother's Day gift you can receive.
What would it be like to receive and acknowledge the gift she is to you ...
I hope you will open your heart to feel the same love and respect for her that she feels for you.
Try to see her ... She is so beautiful
You can choose to see the beauty in each other, and when you unite, you can together create a life in harmony and balance for both of you. ❤️
A heart coach
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