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Post by tnr9 on Jun 13, 2022 14:57:52 GMT
Since I am back in my community….it was only a matter of time before some guy triggered the AP side of me…and that happened yesterday. Long story short, he gave off a very B vibe and I could feel myself starting to regress into that less adult side of myself. The good news is that I am processing through it in a much more secure way….honoring myself, allowing myself to grieve the fantasy of B again. And the great news is that I know it isn’t “me”…this guy wants someone who has the same political lens that he has and someone outside of his race. So I have achieved an aware FA status…which is fantastic as far as I am concerned.
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Post by annieb on Jun 13, 2022 15:23:27 GMT
Congratulations on the aware FA status! Glad you’re able to work through it here and as always it’s an honor to witness your growth and stumbles and more growth. Love always! ❤️
Regarding the guy, and your thoughtfulness in how you approach this is again a testament to who you are as a person. Most people if someone triggers them to regress would simply tell that other person to f*ck off. Instead you’d rather process it and align with the grounded you. It’s isn’t easy to do this, it isn’t easy to do the right thing, and stand by your values while also being considerate of the other person. Most people never even think of doing this.
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Post by tnr9 on Jun 14, 2022 15:29:44 GMT
Congratulations on the aware FA status! Glad you’re able to work through it here and as always it’s an honor to witness your growth and stumbles and more growth. Love always! ❤️ Regarding the guy, and your thoughtfulness in how you approach this is again a testament to who you are as a person. Most people if someone triggers them to regress would simply tell that other person to f*ck off. Instead you’d rather process it and align with the grounded you. It’s isn’t easy to do this, it isn’t easy to do the right thing, and stand by your values while also being considerate of the other person. Most people never even think of doing this. Thanks Annie…I actually feel much better today knowing that it is not personal. I even have a friend who I think might be a good match for him. If I could have been this way with B…things would have turned out very different…..but I am glad to be using these skills now. |
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