Post by Deleted on Jun 29, 2022 3:53:29 GMT
A trigger for me is a lack of consistency. I've been able to identify it and express it after reading about it. And I've been researching it to find validation for myself, also. I found this article that may be validating for other DA to read. I think we are misunderstood. Like we don't actually need anything. But we really do, and this article was really accurate for me. I know there aren't any other DA in the forum rn but maybe some lurkers can benefit.
I am unfamiliar with the author, but will likely read some more of his stuff. I don't necessarily agree that two insecures are able to grow secure with each other with this kind of coaching. But it helps me articulate what my needs are because that's pretty tough to do sometimes. If I'm feeling triggered I'm likely to get mad and withdraw rather than articulate my hurt or whatever, sometimes. Especially if it really is getting to me- I'll get mad and deactivate and need to go be alone.
So here it is. I don't know if he's good about other styles I've only read this one article.
www.fruitfulseedz.com/blogs/news/how-the-ismissive-avoidant-views-the-ideal-relationship
I am unfamiliar with the author, but will likely read some more of his stuff. I don't necessarily agree that two insecures are able to grow secure with each other with this kind of coaching. But it helps me articulate what my needs are because that's pretty tough to do sometimes. If I'm feeling triggered I'm likely to get mad and withdraw rather than articulate my hurt or whatever, sometimes. Especially if it really is getting to me- I'll get mad and deactivate and need to go be alone.
So here it is. I don't know if he's good about other styles I've only read this one article.
www.fruitfulseedz.com/blogs/news/how-the-ismissive-avoidant-views-the-ideal-relationship