FA/DA ex end conversation quickly Aug 12, 2022 19:05:11 GMT
Post by ctlguy260 on Aug 12, 2022 19:05:11 GMT
So I have communicated some with my FA/DA ex GF. We have been broken up for 7 months. I am so confused by her communication. This was via email. I reached out a few days ago to catch up. She shared back and forth a little and I finally said I would love to see her and maybe have lunch if she was comfortable with it. She responded it wouldn't be a good idea because she is in a relationship. I told her its hard to imagine that we may never see each other again since the window of opportunity may never present itself when we both are not seeing someone. She has been in 2 relationships quickly after us. I ended the email with something funny from a really good memory. We both ate a thc gummy once (we both have never done that) and the night was hilarious. She responded with "that was the funniest memory ever", and mentioned a few other hilarious memories, one in which I didn't fully remember. She has never shown any enthusiasm over the times we have talked or even talked about the good times over the past 7 months we have exchanged emails. So when i asked what exact moment she was referring to and kept the banter going and telling her she was so hilarious. Well, then she never responded to the question. It felt so disrespectful and I'm thinking, why finally share funny memories and then just stop that way.
We both had the best relationship we ever had and it was rare with constant banter and laughing. She pulled away when it got real and the AP/FA trap and fight or flight was activated. We both know that all we missed to make it work was be open and vulnerable with one another but she would just shut down and push me away and respond in dismissive ways. After what we had its still so confusing as to why what we had was not enough to work through that when I mentioned over and over that's what I waned.