Post by introvert on Aug 13, 2022 18:52:16 GMT
I'm curious to hear what your experience is when your partner leaves town to travel for a week or so. My boyfriend is gone for about 5 days now, and won't return for another 4. Im starting to feel a little down, vaguely sad. But I've also been focusing on some hobbies and upcoming school (I'm returning to college, excited about that.) We also have a vacation at the end of the month I'm really looking forward to.
The first few days, I didn't really feel missing, just affectionate thoughts about alongside appreciation for some time to handle things I have going on and retreat into my own spiritual and self care practices. It's been renewing in a way. I also noticed a sobering awareness that my life and his are so deeply entwined and we are together most of the time it seems! It would be very difficult if I were not to see him again. I can't imagine it, but I try to imagine that I would be strong, grieve and learn how to live thankful that we shared our lives like we do, the way that we have helped each other grow and become more whole.
That's just the awareness I have of people losing their spouses as I hear of that not infrequently in my professional life, some of my clients are older and have gone through that grief. I don't know if it's healthy or average for someone to go to thoughts of having to let go, when a partner is gone temporarily. Probably just a throwback to insecurity? Or is it a healthy contemplation? If it leads to being present and thankful, maybe so?
We've been in touch briefly each day, which is nice but we haven't engaged beyond quick phone calls or a message here and there as the signal where he is is horrible.
Anyway, I'm just wondering if you use the time to reflect, do self care, and renew yourself? I feel a real appreciation for what he adds to my life that I want to be sure to express when he returns. On the other hand, I'm very defended against allowing myself to become too emotionally dependent, which is not surprising given my DA roots. It's such a strange internal conflict, but it's not a big deal as I try to stay in the present when thoughts of potential loss come up, anyway.
Rambling post, sorry... just pondering. Any input will be interesting, thanks in advance!
The first few days, I didn't really feel missing, just affectionate thoughts about alongside appreciation for some time to handle things I have going on and retreat into my own spiritual and self care practices. It's been renewing in a way. I also noticed a sobering awareness that my life and his are so deeply entwined and we are together most of the time it seems! It would be very difficult if I were not to see him again. I can't imagine it, but I try to imagine that I would be strong, grieve and learn how to live thankful that we shared our lives like we do, the way that we have helped each other grow and become more whole.
That's just the awareness I have of people losing their spouses as I hear of that not infrequently in my professional life, some of my clients are older and have gone through that grief. I don't know if it's healthy or average for someone to go to thoughts of having to let go, when a partner is gone temporarily. Probably just a throwback to insecurity? Or is it a healthy contemplation? If it leads to being present and thankful, maybe so?
We've been in touch briefly each day, which is nice but we haven't engaged beyond quick phone calls or a message here and there as the signal where he is is horrible.
Anyway, I'm just wondering if you use the time to reflect, do self care, and renew yourself? I feel a real appreciation for what he adds to my life that I want to be sure to express when he returns. On the other hand, I'm very defended against allowing myself to become too emotionally dependent, which is not surprising given my DA roots. It's such a strange internal conflict, but it's not a big deal as I try to stay in the present when thoughts of potential loss come up, anyway.
Rambling post, sorry... just pondering. Any input will be interesting, thanks in advance!