Post by lostyyc on Dec 11, 2017 6:40:57 GMT
I am at a loss, hold on or give up. I have a history of holding on to relationships for to long, so now I also have a tendency to be quick to ready to give up. My bf of about 3 years, persuades me orherwise. Not to say the extended breaks we have had over the past 4 years weren’t initiated by him.
The guy I am seeing is a good guys guy, well educated, successful & healthy. Our relationship has moved into the steady Netflix and chill mode, after 3 years he cannot sleep over, will not kiss me, sex on the couch only. Usually, dinner & movie & crash till one of us goes home. He has somewhat made an unsaid position of me not being welcome to drop by or sleep over, we see one another 2-3 days a week. And I haven’t met his friends. I have said I love you, many times, never returned for 1.5 years. About every 3 weeks I am upset enough that I need real intamcy that I initiate a conversation that inevitably end poorly about all of these things. Lately I’ve tried to contain my focus to building intamcy by just asking that we have sleepovers on the weekend. He agrees, but never delivers and the cycle continues. I’m embarrrsed for how long. His company is good. He’s 43, myself 36, we both apparently want a family. How so baffles me
How does someone deal with this? How do you set boundaries to know enough is enough?
The guy I am seeing is a good guys guy, well educated, successful & healthy. Our relationship has moved into the steady Netflix and chill mode, after 3 years he cannot sleep over, will not kiss me, sex on the couch only. Usually, dinner & movie & crash till one of us goes home. He has somewhat made an unsaid position of me not being welcome to drop by or sleep over, we see one another 2-3 days a week. And I haven’t met his friends. I have said I love you, many times, never returned for 1.5 years. About every 3 weeks I am upset enough that I need real intamcy that I initiate a conversation that inevitably end poorly about all of these things. Lately I’ve tried to contain my focus to building intamcy by just asking that we have sleepovers on the weekend. He agrees, but never delivers and the cycle continues. I’m embarrrsed for how long. His company is good. He’s 43, myself 36, we both apparently want a family. How so baffles me
How does someone deal with this? How do you set boundaries to know enough is enough?
