lj
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Post by lj on Nov 21, 2022 22:49:13 GMT
I am according to my DA ... bf . Well it's on the rock, I am always looking for a good job or a compliment. I think about it and I dint think I am but I do see that I do could be super annoying. Lol. I like to ask like is the food I made good. What do you want to eat , can I get you anything else . Do you need anything from the store. I'm a Da worst nightmare ans after 13 years just figured out he's a DA after an fast discard. ..thats another story. I have to stop with the ..doing so much for him. I would hate it. ...ans I do it to him how can I stop... I dont even know I do it. ... there has to be away to just stop it.
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Post by tnr9 on Nov 23, 2022 3:18:14 GMT
I am according to my DA ... bf . Well it's on the rock, I am always looking for a good job or a compliment. I think about it and I dint think I am but I do see that I do could be super annoying. Lol. I like to ask like is the food I made good. What do you want to eat , can I get you anything else . Do you need anything from the store. I'm a Da worst nightmare ans after 13 years just figured out he's a DA after an fast discard. ..thats another story. I have to stop with the ..doing so much for him. I would hate it. ...ans I do it to him how can I stop... I dont even know I do it. ... there has to be away to just stop it. Hi there….actually…I will put it a bit differently….because doing less for him is going to feel scary unless you have an alternate plan. Might I suggest you consider doing more for you? Ie…standing up for the person you are…because no one is perfect. You are not a person with DA attachment’s worst nightmare….you are simply expressing your needs in a way that has made sense to you…vice versa…he is expressing his in a way that makes sense to him. At the root is that neither of you are going to be able to give the other person what he/she needs because your insecure attachment is driving the show….your need for assurance/approval and the avoidance of abandonment….his need for space/distance and the avoidance of being overwhelmed by someone else’s needs. In order for this to work…both of you would want to address your individual insecurity and then decide if the relationship is still a good fit. |
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