Post by intellectovert on Dec 3, 2022 15:55:57 GMT
Hi all, new here!
Wanted to share my thoughts someplace they’d be acknowledged. Healing has been in progress for almost three months now going on four with the help of God. Spending a decent amount of time browsing, I came across this thread. At first, I wondered how I could become a part of the community with no prior experience. I am now fully registered and open to share!
It’s best if I introduce myself a tad bit before I begin, so hi again! Since 2020, I tested as a dismissive-avoidant up until today. Given that I was fairly new, I knew nothing about attachment styles but knew my scoring was exact! If curious, I scored 94% of avoidance of closeness this year and a year or two prior 100%. Not a drastic difference but it’s the recognition that counts!
A brief moment back I was in some sorta entanglement with a FA male—not one I recall much of. Without further explanation, the FA decided to remove me from all social media platforms with no keen reasoning. It was abrupt abandonment all over again but expected. (This tickles me a little but I will go on). In effort to be in harmony with the FA, I set all of my dignity aside to reconcile a day after the fallout and things went sour.
To finish this off, I am self-soothing and creating healthy-fitting boundaries. I’m considering attending in-person/cognitive therapy a second time but all it really takes is dedication! It’s been decided that I will take the remaining amount of time this year to understand what all has to be done in order to become secure. The following year I will begin both individual and group therapy.
For all DA’s, what does boundaries look like to you?
1. No yelling, I will entertain any discussion topic but be an adult when you talk to me. 2.No name calling or insults lets stay on the issue or problem. I understand being upset, but let's be adult about it. 3.No profanity laced triads when upset. I feel threatened and unsafe and will walk away 4.No threats. If you say it you better mean it 5. No perpetual drunkiness. Grew up with it as a child ain't having it now