Online coaches, courses ,videos etc.....

What courses has anyone done, what courses can anyone recommend that have made a difference in improving their attachment styles. I am trying to get help here in Australia with a psychologist etc. for my own Issues at the moment to do with PTSD, anxiety, depression from my now former career.

This is what we call here 'Workcover' and is a gov Insurance approved, paid etc... but is not that easy...Is an acute shortage of mental health professionals, availability the last couple of years in Australia...

That is just my work, general life issues at the moment, let alone trying to find someone for Attachment styles/relationship issues, hence I believe anything I do or try to do in this field will come down to self-help, study....

Jeb's insights have perhaps evolved a bit now that he's become a parent. He mentioned that in a post at some point. Diane Poole Heller is extremely knowledgeable and compassionate as a professional in the field, anne12 might have some good advice.

I think you're approaching it the right way, and I completely agree that the best advice for how to work through this stuff seems to come from people who clearly worked through it at some point (earning secure after being insecure in the past). In addition to @introverttemporary 's suggestions, take a look at Jayson Gaddis. I believe he and his wife both earned secure after being stuck in the anxious-avoidant trap (best I can tell, prior to them working things out and getting married, he was FA and she was AP, and they both have master's degrees in psychology now). John Gottman and his institute are good for learning healthier relationship skills. Neil Strauss doesn't have courses, but he has some good insights in his later works and guest podcast interviews (he earned secure from FA in the years after he published his misguided pickup artist book, The Game). His book The Truth is effectively about his journey towards earning secure, though he doesn't say it in those terms and there's some gratuitous nudity in it lol.

Definitely avoid the sites with people leaning into gender roles and stereotypes (relationship issues are not limited to one gender). The toxic masculinity approach will not help you. Some of those get your ex back sites are geared towards helping men who are deeply insecure and act like doormats and scared of women to become more confident, which is an okay idea in theory, but in practice the approach is terrible. If they're not actually working on the insecurities and underlying reasons and instead are objectifying women and making the approach about a power play and control tactics, run away from that website or coach or whatever it is. Avoid anything to do with "red pill." A good site will also focus on the individual seeking advice and not be afraid to say, maybe you should work on yourself and accepting you are not compatible with this ex, instead of advising on different games you can play to get their attention back.

I'd also stay away from Teal Swan. She has a couple good things to say here and there but is a very questionable person overall.

I think it is a good rule of thumb to look into the people giving the advice a little bit if possible. Are they at a life stage you aspire to? That's a good sign. As an example, I wouldn't want to hire a dating coach who is chronically single and doesn't have healthy relationships themselves.

Hi Introvert,

Thais Gibson is one of the ones I have been following, I discovered her a few weeks ago and have watched an incredible amount of her videos, was really inspired and had many a lightbulb moment. I've now signed up to do some of the online courses with her Personal Development School, before signing up I could not find any negative feedback anywhere regarding her online videos on her channel or her course, I have found her pretty inspiring to be honest. I believe she said she was an FA previously, but don't hold me on that.

The others I like are Craig Kenneth (along with Margaret) a psychotherapist who talks, deals a lot on attachment videos, I like his channel as well, think he said he was an AP in the past.


The other one I like and follow a bit, watch his videos is Coach Court, he has also identified as an AP, he deals, specialises a lot in Attachment styles etc.

I have Diane Heller Poole's book 'The power of Attachment' here, just have to try and fit it in in reading it along with another book I've just started and along with the Personal Development school course I have just started. Also have another recommended book 'Attached'....

Think I could be busy for some time...

Regards!

If you want to go down the therapy road, go to your GP and get a mental health plan together. This will give you ten free visits to a professional, or at least pay for some of the costs. Attachment theory is largely considered out of date by practitioners here, but I’ve not come across a more concise range that more than adequately describes the behaviour and motivation of insecurely attached people, myself included. Or, that there is a way out. That there is hope. Happy to chat from the dry state, if you like.

While you are looking into healing methodologies, you may want to check into somatic experiencing.  That is the therapy that has most helped me as I was completely numb to my body.  A lot of books in this genre speak to how trauma is stored in the body and how to recognize and work through that trauma.  “The body keeps score” is a well known book in this area.