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Post by tnr9 on Apr 5, 2023 19:22:47 GMT
she said she can't love me and don't believe in my words and she was analyzing every of them when i was holding her that night i know she was affreid of something and stress You are still analyzing her and that is not going to be helpful moving forward. Typically when there is a breakup, people need space…it isn’t avoiding “you”…she is just dealing with her own feelings. Please discuss this with your therapist. |
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Post by sura223 on Apr 5, 2023 20:58:39 GMT
just stop saying about this therapist
i'm not crazy or anything like that
i just have broken hart... And i feel pretty bad about this all thing but i can't reverse that. I need to work on my self esteem and that's it.
And yes i will analyzing this situation
and yes i'm analyzing this situation because its hurt me....
When i first met her i was thinking i don't wanna be with her but we start to spend more and more time together. Going out for wine to the cinema. And after couple of meeting i finally kiss her and that was the greatest moment in my life... So i just feel hartbroken and i know about my issue with self worth.
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Post by tnr9 on Apr 5, 2023 22:14:12 GMT
just stop saying about this therapist i'm not crazy or anything like that i just have broken hart... And i feel pretty bad about this all thing but i can't reverse that. I need to work on my self esteem and that's it. And yes i will analyzing this situation and yes i'm analyzing this situation because its hurt me.... When i first met her i was thinking i don't wanna be with her but we start to spend more and more time together. Going out for wine to the cinema. And after couple of meeting i finally kiss her and that was the greatest moment in my life... So i just feel hartbroken and i know about my issue with self worth. I see a therapist and I don’t consider anyone who does crazy….but you seem very distraught and posting on a public message board is not going to bring you any resolution because you keep cycling on it here. |
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Post by sura223 on Apr 5, 2023 22:20:28 GMT
i know
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Post by sura223 on Aug 22, 2023 20:14:11 GMT
Its been a while and i still hate myself for everything. I made a lot of mistakes and i was more of a teddy bear than her boyfriend. I felt unworthy of her, and now i miss her and our relationship and i hate myself even more....
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Post by sura223 on Aug 22, 2023 20:15:48 GMT
we don't speak only see each other at work and every time i fell bad about everything i just want to talk to her kiss her and i see she move on with her life and i can't and i feel like a trash
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Post by introvert on Aug 23, 2023 4:22:44 GMT
we don't speak only see each other at work and every time i fell bad about everything i just want to talk to her kiss her and i see she move on with her life and i can't and i feel like a trash Your sadness is so heavy, and I am sorry that your heart is broken. Do you have anyone close to you to support you? Someone who can be with you, talk and listen with compassion? |
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Post by sura223 on Aug 23, 2023 22:59:38 GMT
we don't speak only see each other at work and every time i fell bad about everything i just want to talk to her kiss her and i see she move on with her life and i can't and i feel like a trash Your sadness is so heavy, and I am sorry that your heart is broken. Do you have anyone close to you to support you? Someone who can be with you, talk and listen with compassion? not really everybody have enough of this so i don't talk about that but i still feel that is my fault i was too much and i cant handle my emotions i always predicts that something bad will happend or she will left me for someone better and i talk about that with a lot of people and i know she knows about that and i feel like a bad man |
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Post by sura223 on Aug 23, 2023 23:00:45 GMT
Now i feel alone and i feel like i screwd something great because of my fears and doubts in myself. I truly hate myself
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Post by introvert on Aug 24, 2023 3:44:33 GMT
Now i feel alone and i feel like i screwd something great because of my fears and doubts in myself. I truly hate myself That's really hard to interact with, when someone says they hate themselves. It makes me feel sad for you but also unsure what to say. I hope you can find some kind of forgiveness for yourself or some way to find healing and peace. I think it's best for you to talk to a professional in real life to deal with your grief and self hatred, it's not something I feel comfortable interacting with online. |
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Post by sura223 on Aug 24, 2023 22:08:11 GMT
Now i feel alone and i feel like i screwd something great because of my fears and doubts in myself. I truly hate myself That's really hard to interact with, when someone says they hate themselves. It makes me feel sad for you but also unsure what to say. I hope you can find some kind of forgiveness for yourself or some way to find healing and peace. I think it's best for you to talk to a professional in real life to deal with your grief and self hatred, it's not something I feel comfortable interacting with online. I understand that.... yes i was talking with professional but still i hate myself i love her and i feel empty i know it was my fault not her she was after some bad stuff and i was too much... I just hate my life and hate myself really im the worst human on the world. Im pathetic and im no one...... |
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Post by sura223 on Aug 26, 2023 10:49:51 GMT
I know she needed time and I was the last moron instead of giving her time patience I was such an idiot and I lost her and she was afraid to just trust after the previous relationship she was afraid of being hurt and like an idiot I ruined everything. I just hate myself soo much for that
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Post by KAI on Aug 26, 2023 20:09:28 GMT
From the experience gathered on this forum, in most cases, when there is attachment traumas involved, there's not much you can do to avoid seeing the accident happen, even in slow-motion. So stop beliveing there was something you could have done otherwise. The attachment would have found another way to express. I think just like the other members on this board, that right now, your first concern should be yourself.
You seem to be looping about the reasons and the faults to be found, but you should first try to work on YOUR attachement traumas, this way, next time you meet somebody, you'll be less likely to trigger them (and you). It's a lot of work but it's worth it..; and it's the only way to not see the history repeat. But for that, you need to see a professionnal; analyst or psychologist. It's not about being crazy, it's about facing what brought you in that place (and her), and be courageous and fight.
Good luck and hang on there. On this board, there are people that come from very far, and they managed to break their repeating cycles of being activated. And now, they're here to help you as well. But first, YOU must help yourself. And an analyst. The forum comes only on top of it all.
Read other posts to understand your attachement better, and it will change gradually, and you will feel stronger
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