Post by avoiddemons on Dec 19, 2017 21:13:37 GMT
My boyfriend, who seems to be FA, is 40 years old, but he behaves about 12. And of course it's not possible to have an adult relationship with a 12 year old. He has major issues with feeling inadequate and the more anxious and inadequate he is feeling on any particular day, the more immature and child-like his behaviours get.
Recently he showed up at my home carrying a pack of skittles, giggling to himself, saying "I'm not gonna let you have any of these skittles, they're my favourite." Then he said, "hahaha, I was only joking, I will let you have one."
Every time we have sex he says "oooh you're getting naughty again. You keep leading me astray. I shouldn't be doing this."
He will make all sorts of plans for stuff for us to go and places for us to visit and then half the time he flakes out at the last minute or genuinely forgets, or becomes even more child-like.
He has a very strange family set-up where his mother and his sister and himself seem seriously enmeshed. He has given up his own home to move in with his mother. He will often cancel dates because his mother wants him to spend time with her.
When I tried to speak about his dismissive recent behaviour he seemed confused and said, "why are you being mean to me?"
It's so sad because I can see that underneath it all is a very, very sweet guy. I know that his father was severely abusive and violent (from the way my bf has described him, the father sounds like a sociopath). I also strongly suspect he's been sexually abused.
Recently he showed up at my home carrying a pack of skittles, giggling to himself, saying "I'm not gonna let you have any of these skittles, they're my favourite." Then he said, "hahaha, I was only joking, I will let you have one."
Every time we have sex he says "oooh you're getting naughty again. You keep leading me astray. I shouldn't be doing this."
He will make all sorts of plans for stuff for us to go and places for us to visit and then half the time he flakes out at the last minute or genuinely forgets, or becomes even more child-like.
He has a very strange family set-up where his mother and his sister and himself seem seriously enmeshed. He has given up his own home to move in with his mother. He will often cancel dates because his mother wants him to spend time with her.
When I tried to speak about his dismissive recent behaviour he seemed confused and said, "why are you being mean to me?"
It's so sad because I can see that underneath it all is a very, very sweet guy. I know that his father was severely abusive and violent (from the way my bf has described him, the father sounds like a sociopath). I also strongly suspect he's been sexually abused.
