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Post by tnr9 on May 31, 2024 15:10:13 GMT
My dad passed away 3 years ago. He left any money to his wife and left us (his children) with 3 bags of clothes. Those bags have been sitting on the floor in my living room. I sold 1 t shirt online but have not made any real progress. Today, I started to go through 1 of the bags. Physically, I feel ill…like I am going to throw up and I can’t tell where that is coming from but I am also just very sad. Here was a man who had so much power over how I felt about myself. He was a psychiatrist and used to hold his thumb and first finger about an inch apart and would say I was this close to normal. In a moment of spite, he requested custody of me…won in court and then decided he did not want me after all. I t is evident that there are still left over wounds and I am not sure how to move forward if I can’t even go through these bags without physical symptoms.
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Post by kirrok on May 31, 2024 21:09:22 GMT
Really sorry to hear that you're experiencing this. In terms of caring for your own needs here – because that's what really matters – must you be the person amongst your siblings who has to deal with the clothing? Does the clothing even need to be held onto, or is it something that could be relinquished altogether in deference to your own feelings?
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Post by lovebunny on Jun 1, 2024 12:48:12 GMT
Why do you need to go through his clothes? Are these truly of financial or sentimental value?
Just toss 'em, unless of course if there's a decent amount of $$$ to be made off them (I'm practical over emotional when it comes to money.)
What a condescending, douchebag thing to say to a daughter, "this close." Ugh.
Honestly, toss the clothes if it's triggering you, nothing has inherent value just because it was his. It's just old clothes.
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