Can FAs skip the seperation elation phase?

We can't read her mind or tell the future, but the fact that she's still having problems after the breakup should show you that the issues aren't about you. She's struggling with things, and people struggling generally can't show up as good partners for others even if they want to. There's a reason for all the love yourself first, clean up your side of the street, put on your oxygen mask first on the airplane before helping others stereotype relationship advice. Anyone can be overwhelmed and therefore leave a relationship, and an insecure attacher generally has even fewer coping mechanisms for stress and healthy communication and boundaries during stress. So let her do her own thing and try not to ruminate and mindread about how she's handling the breakup. How does fixating on her and making up a narrative about it help you?