Post by tnr9 on Sept 3, 2024 14:56:53 GMT
I understand why you are asking these questions….but focusing on his behaviors will only keep you from processing the deeper wounding. Case in point…I was obsessed with the guy I dated and I thought if I understood him then I would be able to move on….but what was really at the root of my rumination and missing him was an inability to self regulate. Once I focused on the underlying issues within myself and was able to accept myself fully (and by the way…there isn’t a right or wrong person…or a person who has to take the blame for the end of a relationship…relationships end all the time….for various reasons and there doesn’t have to be fault finding or blaming) I stopped all the ruminating on him. That is what I wish for you….to simply accept that you and he were incompatible and drop the need to define the why. You are worthy of a partner who doesn’t judge or miscommunication and you won’t find that looking into the rear view mirror.
Also…I welcome you to go back to my very first post and read through how I struggled and for how long. In the end, it was worth it because it helped me to become more sincere about addressing my core wounding instead of focusing on my past failed relationship. I had to finally work on my own long held and incorrect assessments of myself, my parents and others.
Also…I welcome you to go back to my very first post and read through how I struggled and for how long. In the end, it was worth it because it helped me to become more sincere about addressing my core wounding instead of focusing on my past failed relationship. I had to finally work on my own long held and incorrect assessments of myself, my parents and others.
