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Post by tnr9 on Dec 29, 2017 17:30:15 GMT
I am trying to learn what I can to have the best chance of being friends with him....but I just hate the "not knowing" how to be with him. This covers text messages, emails and soon...I will be seeing him at the singles community we met at. It feels all too much and I would love it if there were a manual that could help me to navigate this. Just being honest.
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Post by yasmin on Dec 29, 2017 20:26:19 GMT
You have to just be yourself!
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Post by tnr9 on Dec 30, 2017 1:33:07 GMT
You have to just be yourself! I appreciate that Yasmin....I really do....but being myself lost him....and my AP way of dealing with that grief is try figure out what he needs and then change myself to accommodate him. I know that isn't how it is supposed to work....but the message of "abandonment=something is wrong with me" is very deeply ingrained. |
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Post by tnr9 on Dec 30, 2017 2:25:45 GMT
And after writing the above...I realize that I am not feeling well and likely coming down with a cold which just exacerbates my AP responses.
I honestly would love a do over with my ex.
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