Post by kelvain on Jan 15, 2018 16:50:01 GMT
Here's the situation:
My DA broke up with me a few days before Christmas. She had begun distancing in Late November. I still have stuff at her house that I need to pick up this weekend. Yes, it's valuable stuff. Over $5,000 in guitars alone, so leaving it and replacing it is not an option. We haven't had any contact for nearly two weeks other than her sending a quick Happy Birthday text last week. I responded "Thank You" roughly 12 hours later.
What I need advice on is the following:
How should I act and what should I say (if anything) when I go there this weekend?
Thanks for any thoughts/advice/views on this!
Side Notes:
-We were together for about 10 years in an on and off relationship.
-I am accepting of this break up whereas previously I was the textbook AP (but no longer thanks to being made aware and working toward a better, more stable version of myself).
-I am of the mindset that if she can't see my worth/value, then I can't be bothered spending any more time on this person.
-If she had a breakthrough and came to the realization that she couldn't live without me and was willing to work together toward creating a healthy relationship (communication, couples therapy, or anything in the positive direction to promote a healthy relationship), I would give it another chance.
-I do love her still and always will.
-I would not enter the "friend zone" with her. It would be 100% No Contact from this moment on.
Again, thanks for any help!
My DA broke up with me a few days before Christmas. She had begun distancing in Late November. I still have stuff at her house that I need to pick up this weekend. Yes, it's valuable stuff. Over $5,000 in guitars alone, so leaving it and replacing it is not an option. We haven't had any contact for nearly two weeks other than her sending a quick Happy Birthday text last week. I responded "Thank You" roughly 12 hours later.
What I need advice on is the following:
How should I act and what should I say (if anything) when I go there this weekend?
Thanks for any thoughts/advice/views on this!
Side Notes:
-We were together for about 10 years in an on and off relationship.
-I am accepting of this break up whereas previously I was the textbook AP (but no longer thanks to being made aware and working toward a better, more stable version of myself).
-I am of the mindset that if she can't see my worth/value, then I can't be bothered spending any more time on this person.
-If she had a breakthrough and came to the realization that she couldn't live without me and was willing to work together toward creating a healthy relationship (communication, couples therapy, or anything in the positive direction to promote a healthy relationship), I would give it another chance.
-I do love her still and always will.
-I would not enter the "friend zone" with her. It would be 100% No Contact from this moment on.
Again, thanks for any help!
