Post by lucy on Jan 17, 2018 22:09:34 GMT
So you meet this amazing guy, and after some dating you finally kiss, and then some days later you sleep with each other and all is well...and you ask him 'surely something must be wrong with you' why else would he have been single and he sais 'you'll have to find out'...
Fast forward... never seeing him as much as I had hoped to I obviously didnt get as much sex as I would have wanted to. Then insecurity sets in, and though he'd be more than happy to sleep with me, it would Always have to be me iniciating it.
After several months we got carried away on the sofa, which was great at that moment. little did I know from then on he would use the sofa as an excuse to not have to take me to his bedroom anymore. Only in hinsight did I realise it was his way of creating more distance. Keeping his bedroom his place. We even ended up having a upstairs/downstairs argument which I let him win (as usual he is fully in control).
Non of that made sense to me until I read about DA s distancing themselves physically, not as interested in sex, not wanting to share beds... I am more understanding now (though we broke up a month ago...and yes I want him back anyway...sad me)... but it sucks. Your partner not wanting to share the night with you.
Last time he made some excuse about sleeping badly atm and I offered to sleep on the sofa, which I did. We used to get so few sleep overs as it was. 2 a month if I was lucky!. It was upsetting to sleep on the sofa...but one learns to live of crumbs. Anyone else got similar experiences?
Fast forward... never seeing him as much as I had hoped to I obviously didnt get as much sex as I would have wanted to. Then insecurity sets in, and though he'd be more than happy to sleep with me, it would Always have to be me iniciating it.
After several months we got carried away on the sofa, which was great at that moment. little did I know from then on he would use the sofa as an excuse to not have to take me to his bedroom anymore. Only in hinsight did I realise it was his way of creating more distance. Keeping his bedroom his place. We even ended up having a upstairs/downstairs argument which I let him win (as usual he is fully in control).
Non of that made sense to me until I read about DA s distancing themselves physically, not as interested in sex, not wanting to share beds... I am more understanding now (though we broke up a month ago...and yes I want him back anyway...sad me)... but it sucks. Your partner not wanting to share the night with you.
Last time he made some excuse about sleeping badly atm and I offered to sleep on the sofa, which I did. We used to get so few sleep overs as it was. 2 a month if I was lucky!. It was upsetting to sleep on the sofa...but one learns to live of crumbs. Anyone else got similar experiences?
