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Post by bedlam71 on Jan 26, 2018 18:17:18 GMT
Of avoidants having zero interests in a relationship after a breakup?
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Post by Deleted on Jan 26, 2018 19:50:55 GMT
Yes, I just broke up and have zero interest in any new relationship. I think this is the difference between DA and FA. I have very little interest in romantic relationships until I am in one. It will take me a very long time to get into another.
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Post by bedlam71 on Jan 26, 2018 21:07:18 GMT
My ex is fa/da combo. Hx of repeated sexual trauma as a teen. All her exes cheated on her. Cannot deal with conflict at all which is one reason we broke up. She just doesn't have communication and emotion skills.we We broke up officially a month ago. She says there is nobody else and has no interest. From my side, I feel like there must be someone or else she would be contacting me.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 26, 2018 21:13:37 GMT
i take time to process and heal after a breakup and don’t get involved until i have it resolved and peace and balance back, that’s of primary importance to me. Peace and balance and autonomy.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 26, 2018 21:46:10 GMT
My ex is fa/da combo. Hx of repeated sexual trauma as a teen. All her exes cheated on her. Cannot deal with conflict at all which is one reason we broke up. She just doesn't have communication and emotion skills.we We broke up officially a month ago. She says there is nobody else and has no interest. From my side, I feel like there must be someone or else she would be contacting me. Why do you think there is someone else besides her not contacting you? People of all styles use no contact after a break up to heal. |
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Post by bedlam71 on Jan 27, 2018 0:41:32 GMT
You're right and logically I know that,but fear gets in the way.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 27, 2018 1:30:22 GMT
Bedlam, i can see you’re really hurting over your breakup, and i hope you can find some support for your own emotional growth and wellbeing here,
There’s a lot of pain but a lot of growth and help here too, the way i see it we are all in it together.
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Post by bedlam71 on Jan 27, 2018 2:30:28 GMT
Thank you, tgat! Trying to look at this as transformative but the emotions seem to be winning out.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 27, 2018 2:34:34 GMT
The emotions are so important, they can be your teachers too. Transformation is such a process and part of it is really raw and messy. i encourage you to just keep showing up, stay open, be vulnerable with the rest of us, and keep sharing.  |
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