Post by Jeannie on Jun 9, 2016 7:19:59 GMT
I have made the decision to leave the relationship after 7 years. However, we work together in a large company. A transfer is not possible because of skill sets, and there is too much overlap anyway. If there was not this complication I would have left a year ago.
When I end it, my self esteem will take a nose dive. He is very, very popular, particularly with women. With the exception of a few wise, very close friends/colleagues, I will be the 'baddie' for leaving someone who is so 'kind' (attentively listening to their problems, making them feel like they are really being understood etc, although in his own words he says he does it because he enjoys it). The only people who know the truth are those who have been in a relationship with him - he admits they they all deserved better, but that doesn't really help my situation as none of them are around, and all of them are in stable, happy relationships now (which gives me some hope).
i could leave him tomorrow if it wasn't for this. My job is very well paid, but most importantly, it allows me to work at home and thus manage my children (me and him don't live together). Also, and because of the nature of the job, I would have to give 6 months notice.
i have reached the stage where I can't stand to hear his voice - I am no longer responding to personal texts /emails in the way that I used to. 'No contact' is easier said than done - certainly for the short term anyway. If anyone has experience of this - I would appreciate their advice.
When I end it, my self esteem will take a nose dive. He is very, very popular, particularly with women. With the exception of a few wise, very close friends/colleagues, I will be the 'baddie' for leaving someone who is so 'kind' (attentively listening to their problems, making them feel like they are really being understood etc, although in his own words he says he does it because he enjoys it). The only people who know the truth are those who have been in a relationship with him - he admits they they all deserved better, but that doesn't really help my situation as none of them are around, and all of them are in stable, happy relationships now (which gives me some hope).
i could leave him tomorrow if it wasn't for this. My job is very well paid, but most importantly, it allows me to work at home and thus manage my children (me and him don't live together). Also, and because of the nature of the job, I would have to give 6 months notice.
i have reached the stage where I can't stand to hear his voice - I am no longer responding to personal texts /emails in the way that I used to. 'No contact' is easier said than done - certainly for the short term anyway. If anyone has experience of this - I would appreciate their advice.
