Post by ocarina on Feb 3, 2018 22:11:23 GMT
I was with - officially so in terms of friends/ holidaying together, kids time together, my ex partner for 6 years and over this time I never met any of his family except his daughter. He met mine and we had many mutual friends.
Not sure quite how I felt about this - his family were aware of my existence, but he seemed to be somewhat ashamed of them I think. He saw them very rarely anyway but I was not included at important family events - ie his dad's 80th birthday and stepfathers funeral although after the event he would say he wished I was there and that only I would have known what to say/do.
We split for a while once and early on he made a big effort to be couple like - even presenting me with a bunch of flowers in public at a social event when all our friends were around - this was majorly out of character and suffice to say it didn't last long.
Sadly when we parted it was after a weekend when he was unbelievably distant - he'd become more so after the previous few months. I was struggling with a serious child issue (drug related) and he basically told me he couldn't be there for me because he was so wound up with anger at his daughter's mother who he claimed had tried to tie him down by becoming pregnant and was now effectively blackmailing him into paying her money to support this child. This is 15 years since they separated and the anger was still palpable. I didn't handle it gracefully - by then I had had enough and made my case - that I needed a partner who could be present for me. His reply was that it was up to me - and that was it. Yikes!
Not sure quite how I felt about this - his family were aware of my existence, but he seemed to be somewhat ashamed of them I think. He saw them very rarely anyway but I was not included at important family events - ie his dad's 80th birthday and stepfathers funeral although after the event he would say he wished I was there and that only I would have known what to say/do.
We split for a while once and early on he made a big effort to be couple like - even presenting me with a bunch of flowers in public at a social event when all our friends were around - this was majorly out of character and suffice to say it didn't last long.
Sadly when we parted it was after a weekend when he was unbelievably distant - he'd become more so after the previous few months. I was struggling with a serious child issue (drug related) and he basically told me he couldn't be there for me because he was so wound up with anger at his daughter's mother who he claimed had tried to tie him down by becoming pregnant and was now effectively blackmailing him into paying her money to support this child. This is 15 years since they separated and the anger was still palpable. I didn't handle it gracefully - by then I had had enough and made my case - that I needed a partner who could be present for me. His reply was that it was up to me - and that was it. Yikes!