Post by theitcrowd on Jun 26, 2016 14:10:37 GMT
Hello All,
Well it's been 3-4 months since I broke up with my ex and after months and months of wondering what went wrong I think I might have found the reason why she acted like that....
Firstly I am anxious-preoccupied myself... I would always be afraid she would leave me... but this started only after she started to be avoidant...
We met online and she flew all the way across the world to meet me... Which was beautiful and brave...
However in our second meeting (after 2 months) after meeting me first she would be very annoyed that I would ask her if we were okay because whenever I would ask about something she would push away..
For e.g. there were times she would say I want a future with you and have kids with you... and few weeks later she would say " I am not sure ... maybe we will get married I am not sure..."
She would just keep changing her mind so many times and it made me more and more anxious and hence making me to keep asking her if she loves me or not or if something is wrong with our relationship...
And at times she wouldn't want to skype or talk ... she would say she needs her own space but at the same time talk to other people and her behavior would change but at times she would want to talk to me all the time and be with me all the time
When we were together in my city and sometimes next to each other in bed or something like that she would push me away and say she doesn't want to be too close and at other times she wanted to hug and cuddle...
She would just keep changing her mind it would really make me feel weird....
Also she would want to flirt with other guys online but still want me not to be mad and say it's normal and it's okay..... and she would want to talk to everyone online....
She never got much love from her Father when she was younger , neither does she now...
I don't know but I have a deep feeling she is Avoidant but not too sure if she is dismissive or fearful...
I just want to know what went wrong and how to better myself..
I know i need to improve myself when it comes to insecurities within myself but she just made my insecurities worse by playing games and flirting with other guys...
Thanks for reading !
Well it's been 3-4 months since I broke up with my ex and after months and months of wondering what went wrong I think I might have found the reason why she acted like that....
Firstly I am anxious-preoccupied myself... I would always be afraid she would leave me... but this started only after she started to be avoidant...
We met online and she flew all the way across the world to meet me... Which was beautiful and brave...
However in our second meeting (after 2 months) after meeting me first she would be very annoyed that I would ask her if we were okay because whenever I would ask about something she would push away..
For e.g. there were times she would say I want a future with you and have kids with you... and few weeks later she would say " I am not sure ... maybe we will get married I am not sure..."
She would just keep changing her mind so many times and it made me more and more anxious and hence making me to keep asking her if she loves me or not or if something is wrong with our relationship...
And at times she wouldn't want to skype or talk ... she would say she needs her own space but at the same time talk to other people and her behavior would change but at times she would want to talk to me all the time and be with me all the time
When we were together in my city and sometimes next to each other in bed or something like that she would push me away and say she doesn't want to be too close and at other times she wanted to hug and cuddle...
She would just keep changing her mind it would really make me feel weird....
Also she would want to flirt with other guys online but still want me not to be mad and say it's normal and it's okay..... and she would want to talk to everyone online....
She never got much love from her Father when she was younger , neither does she now...
I don't know but I have a deep feeling she is Avoidant but not too sure if she is dismissive or fearful...
I just want to know what went wrong and how to better myself..
I know i need to improve myself when it comes to insecurities within myself but she just made my insecurities worse by playing games and flirting with other guys...
Thanks for reading !
