Post by ocarina on Feb 3, 2018 15:46:54 GMT
When dating - or at pretty much any time before marriage, I will almost always let my partner do the making contact to arrange dates etc - it's really really rare for me to reach out and make the first move.
Not sure if this is part of not wanting to be rejected, wanting confirmation that the person wants to be with me or just plain passivity.
At the moment with my ex - who contacted me wanting to meet up to talk a week or two back and then tried to re arrange at the last minute as he was tied up in work (that sounds familiar...) I basically told him I was pretty busy until the end of the month - since then things have slightly changed since I broke my wrist and some of my more adventurous activities have had to be cancelled. I could call him and tell him I am free ish in the next few weeks should we arrange a date - but something inside me stops me.
I know when a relationship ends I am totally capable of never ever contacting the person again - even if I completely love them to the ends of the earth - seems a bit strange even to me - maybe it's a fear of being vulnerable or being out of control or something - anyone else have the same?
Not sure if this is part of not wanting to be rejected, wanting confirmation that the person wants to be with me or just plain passivity.
At the moment with my ex - who contacted me wanting to meet up to talk a week or two back and then tried to re arrange at the last minute as he was tied up in work (that sounds familiar...) I basically told him I was pretty busy until the end of the month - since then things have slightly changed since I broke my wrist and some of my more adventurous activities have had to be cancelled. I could call him and tell him I am free ish in the next few weeks should we arrange a date - but something inside me stops me.
I know when a relationship ends I am totally capable of never ever contacting the person again - even if I completely love them to the ends of the earth - seems a bit strange even to me - maybe it's a fear of being vulnerable or being out of control or something - anyone else have the same?
