AP/FA Suucess Stories?

i think in any case, the more we as individuals work hard on our individual issues to heal our attachment injuries and become more secure, the better our relationships become.
ironically, the healthier we become the more we are able to see our way out of relationships that don’t support us if that’s what is needed. Once true love and security sets in to your own heart it tends to be unstoppable and an incredible impetus for change.

The takeaway here is, you’re going to be ok no matter what if you stay open and pursue growth for yourself.

We often search high and low for hope for our relationships and end up finding more hope for ourselves than we could have imagined, even if things don’t work out how we wished.

There’s some good stuff to go on. I know it’s not exactly what you wanted to hear at the moment (guessing) but it’s good stuff you can count on. Keep working on you and life can surprise you.

"... what they did to make things work"

I guess it's not fair to post a picture and not at least contribute something to the thread.

stavs - I'm quoting you a little to highlight a key point here: In all my understanding and experience, the only way to have some semblance of a functional relationship between an AP and an FA (I did the DA thing before but now I can recognize them I steer clear, but FAs are far harder to pick out before you're already hooked) is for BOTH sides to acknowledge their own characteristics AND those of their partner, and work together - with therapy on both sides - to not trigger each other [as often.] There's absolutely nothing, imho, that you can do alone to improve the situation. Even if your FA partner is aware, that means nothing: Work needs to be done. And it seems that convincing FAs (easier than DAs) that work needs to be done is an immense amount of work in itself, you've got a hard road ahead with absolutely zero guarantees of success (whatever you define success as.)