Post by goldilocks on Mar 4, 2018 22:56:28 GMT
Not every AP is stalkerish, but some are. And not every stalkerish guy is a full blown stalker or abuser.
Texting more does not have to be stalkerish, but it can be. Lets say I sent you one text, and you send two back, that would be fine. if you send 20 texts and leave 5 voicemails, that would be stalkerish.
If you say you are looking for a committed relationship on the 2nd date, that is forward, but fine and quite communicative and if I like you I'll go on a 3rd date. If you tell me about the sort of wedding you have in mind and what wedding dress I would look good in, on the 2nd date, that is really creepy and a 3rd date will not happen.
If you walk me home after a fifth date, because it is late and you worry about my safety, that is protective in a cute way. If you insist on walking me to the bathroom at a restaurant even when I have told you I feel perfectly safe, I would feel suffocated. Same if you would start calling me every other day to ask me where I am.
A lot of AP guys would not do these things but then I would not know them to be AP until several conflicts had happened or he had volunteered the information.
Texting more does not have to be stalkerish, but it can be. Lets say I sent you one text, and you send two back, that would be fine. if you send 20 texts and leave 5 voicemails, that would be stalkerish.
If you say you are looking for a committed relationship on the 2nd date, that is forward, but fine and quite communicative and if I like you I'll go on a 3rd date. If you tell me about the sort of wedding you have in mind and what wedding dress I would look good in, on the 2nd date, that is really creepy and a 3rd date will not happen.
If you walk me home after a fifth date, because it is late and you worry about my safety, that is protective in a cute way. If you insist on walking me to the bathroom at a restaurant even when I have told you I feel perfectly safe, I would feel suffocated. Same if you would start calling me every other day to ask me where I am.
A lot of AP guys would not do these things but then I would not know them to be AP until several conflicts had happened or he had volunteered the information.
