Post by tnr9 on Mar 11, 2018 12:49:28 GMT
I may be the only person who experiences this...
When I was younger, my mom had all these "helpful suggestions" on improvements that I could make.....they were usually about external things like make up, clothes etc etc...but they all came through as her not accepting me for me. I had 2 very distinct internal responses: 1. I wanted her approval desperately and 2. I resented the perceived message that I had to change in order to be accepted and loved because I wanted to be accepted and loved just as I was...this has led to a lot of procrastination in my life because I still have those two internal responses to any suggestion of change. I haven't ever really dealt with it but I know it holding these two thoughts keeps me stuck. This is just one of many mental roadblocks that I am finally ready to tackle.
When I was younger, my mom had all these "helpful suggestions" on improvements that I could make.....they were usually about external things like make up, clothes etc etc...but they all came through as her not accepting me for me. I had 2 very distinct internal responses: 1. I wanted her approval desperately and 2. I resented the perceived message that I had to change in order to be accepted and loved because I wanted to be accepted and loved just as I was...this has led to a lot of procrastination in my life because I still have those two internal responses to any suggestion of change. I haven't ever really dealt with it but I know it holding these two thoughts keeps me stuck. This is just one of many mental roadblocks that I am finally ready to tackle.
