Self regulating and co-regulation exercises ect.

Music to support nerveussystem regulation:

Create a playlist that begins with music that matters / arttunes to your dorsal state. Then transition to music that matches with your sympathetic state, then transition to music that matches / attunes to your ventral state.

When activated check where you are on your autonomic ladder. Then listen to the playlist that matches your state. This can help us to feel attuned with, understood  and connected.

If you are in dorsal see if you after some time can transition into some sympathetic music (lightly energised sympathetic) and then transition to ventral music

If you are in sympathetic start with that music and continue to ventral music

Curiously observe how your system shifts as you are supported to come up your autonomic ladder.

Play is a powerfull healing exercise.

It is a neural exercise strengthening our ns flexibility which allows us to be in control of how we feel

It allows us to assess our ventral energy where we experience safety.

It allows us to experience the precent moment in a safe way.

It supports our inner children in having the experience they deserved (and still do)

It supports us in safely connect with others

It supports us in connecting to our intuition and truth

Neuro affective touch pillows - to help you to ground and to feel your body and the edges of your body/your boundaries:
neuroaffectivetouch.com/nurture-to-heal-pillows/

SE orienting exercise demonstration
m.youtube.com/watch?v=8NpZEgVD--w

Your conncective tissue predisposes you to fight or flight/freeze responces. We are born with a tendency to more sympathetic or more parasympathetic tone. 

Collagen fibres (collastionist) - makes your fibres dence, bouncy, tendencie to fight - you move faster, you've got more muscle tissue
Elastin fibres (elastinist) - makes fibres stretchy,  tendencie to flight/freeze - you move slower - you've got more fat in your tissue. In extreme cases you can have a tendencie to be hypermobile.

You can be in the middle with equal amount of collagen and elastin in your tissue..

Where are your ancestors from can also indicate wether you've got more collagen or elastin in your connective tissue:

Closer to the north/south poles - there's a tendencie for more elastic tissue. People how lives where there are more ice/cold/snow, often have more elastic tissue. (In the winther, they need to store more fat, to be able to keep themselves warm) - ex. Scandinavians, Skottish people ect.
Closer to equator - theres a tendencie for more collastic connective tissue

People with more melanin in their skin can have more collastic connective tissue and people with less melanin in their skin can have more elastic connective tissue.

If you got more elastic tissue this means that your connective tissue is more stretchy, it is harder to feel boundaries, people woth more elastic connective tissue can be more empathetic, can sense pc electricity because pc electricity stores in elastic tissue, people often got a more round and soft face.

People leaning more sympathetic, with more collastic connetive tissue often got faces that has more distinct angles in their face, are more thizzle in their face. 

But it can change through life. What is used strengthens and what is not used weakens.

If you already are more parasympathetic leaning, and you e.g. decide to become a yoga teacher, to become a vegatarian , got a dominating parent, where you can have a tendency to freeze/flee,/fawn/fitting in then you can stay parasympathetic.

If you on the other hand got more collastic tissue,  tend to be a fighter and you become a triatlethe or do other kids of extreme sport, heavy lifting weigths ect. you can stay more sympathetic.

Therefore you shouldn't be too hard on yourself if you are having trouble activating your opposite fight, flight or freeze responces.

But trauma can dominate weather youve got more collagen or elastine in your connective tissue.

About gender differences:
Also women in general have a tendencie to cry and men have a tendencie to get angry.
Men have a tendencie to have more collastic tissue, and woman more elastic tissue.

SE / bodyworker

m.youtube.com/watch?v=fSJgLssFjnc

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