Post by fara on May 3, 2018 0:50:28 GMT
after my avoidant ex and i broke up (he broke up with me but i had to really pull it out of him bc i knew something was wrong) i noticed that he kept looking at my snap chats and at my facebook posts almost immediately after i posted them. also i think he is actually more fearful avoidant but i could be wrong.
i know he was looking at my facebook posts, because we are in a group together on facebook for the church we both used to attend, and those groups show you who viewed your message. And for those of you that don't use snap chat, this app also shows you who viewed your picture.
so the facebook post i made to the group..... i made a post about a party i was planning for one of the church members. i checked the post about ten minutes later, and he had been the very first person to view it. he was not really a guy to get on social media a lot, but i think he got a notification that i posted and he looked at my post immediately. totally out of character for him and he never even did that while we dated. i doubt he realized at the time that i could see that he viewed it bc he's just not internet savvy. and like i said, he also viewed my snap chat posts almost immediately after i would post them for about a week or two after we broke up.
but then after that one or two week period of viewing my posts immediately.... he stopped looking at them completely. part of me thinks he may have realized that i could see that he viewed them. but i mean he never even looked at my posts even many hours after i would make the post. so he went completely cold turkey. i would say either 1. because he maybe found out that i could see that he viewed it or 2. maybe he missed me.
was he likely telling himself that he had to get over me and move on and to cut me out of his life completely? what made him go from 100 to 0 like that so suddenly? it's just SO unlike him to "cling" like that.
i am honestly shocked that he was looking at my stuff like that because it shows some vulnerability that he would otherwise hide. but like i said i don't think he knew at the time that i could see his name as somebody who viewed the pictures or posts.
i know he was looking at my facebook posts, because we are in a group together on facebook for the church we both used to attend, and those groups show you who viewed your message. And for those of you that don't use snap chat, this app also shows you who viewed your picture.
so the facebook post i made to the group..... i made a post about a party i was planning for one of the church members. i checked the post about ten minutes later, and he had been the very first person to view it. he was not really a guy to get on social media a lot, but i think he got a notification that i posted and he looked at my post immediately. totally out of character for him and he never even did that while we dated. i doubt he realized at the time that i could see that he viewed it bc he's just not internet savvy. and like i said, he also viewed my snap chat posts almost immediately after i would post them for about a week or two after we broke up.
but then after that one or two week period of viewing my posts immediately.... he stopped looking at them completely. part of me thinks he may have realized that i could see that he viewed them. but i mean he never even looked at my posts even many hours after i would make the post. so he went completely cold turkey. i would say either 1. because he maybe found out that i could see that he viewed it or 2. maybe he missed me.
was he likely telling himself that he had to get over me and move on and to cut me out of his life completely? what made him go from 100 to 0 like that so suddenly? it's just SO unlike him to "cling" like that.
i am honestly shocked that he was looking at my stuff like that because it shows some vulnerability that he would otherwise hide. but like i said i don't think he knew at the time that i could see his name as somebody who viewed the pictures or posts.
