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Post by DearLover on May 6, 2018 21:56:55 GMT
This was my experience with my DA ex BF. Even after I expressed the need to actually speak on the phone or video calls. He agreed but would do anything in his power for the calls not to happen.
I am guilty of preferring the back and forth texting from the beginning, I was worried about the sound of my voice and my accent over the phone. Pure insecurity. I have always been like this but the men who insisted talking on the phone with me actually managed to put me at ease so I got over it quickly and it became an non-issue.
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Post by tnr9 on May 6, 2018 22:05:53 GMT
B only called me a handful of times...mainly when he accidentally left something at my place...otherwise, it was all texts.
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Post by joan on May 7, 2018 1:10:48 GMT
I'm not sure whether the person I'm seeing is a DA or FA, but our almost three year relationship has only been through text. There may have been a handful of times he's called to tell me something really quickly when he was leaving my place or on his way over, but never just to talk. He says he hates talking on the phone. I think it's a way of keeping in touch, letting me know he's thinking of me and communicating when he's in the mood, but also keeping things at a distance. It's always seemed strange to spend this really intimate and close weekend together where we're talking, ultra affectionate and in each other's faces 24-7 when together and when he leaves only texts for the next couple of days until we see each other again. Our fights, and break-ups have all been through text too. I don't understand why it's such a no go for him but it's definitely kept real intimacy at bay.
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Post by ocarina on May 7, 2018 19:35:34 GMT
Absolutely - a six year relationship in real life but in between seeing each other he only ever initiated by text - or email never ever by phone call. He said he wasn't very good at speaking on the phone and I think it made him feel in some way accountable.
The texting continues despite me having broken up with him a year ago - although I am relieved to say that now the ping of a text from him seems to mean very little to me and very often I am too busy or too involved elsewhere to drop everything for a last minute invite like I would have in the old days. It's a good place to be.
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Post by aubreyap on May 8, 2018 3:33:19 GMT
Yes, he said that he only texted people or used social media. At first he refused to speak on the phone, but he finally broke down and began to call me if I asked. This lead to him feeling very uncomfortable and he said it allowed me to ask too many questions and find things out about him which he did not like. Our last conversation was how he did not want to speak to me on the phone anymore unless it was about superficial things. After that conversation he cut all communication.
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