Post by mrob on May 11, 2018 14:53:19 GMT
May 10, 2018 0:52:16 GMT mrob said:
If he’s outwardly grieving, he’s not DA. Their personalities are above that. Gone, and thanks for the fish. And, honestly, I would have moved on from your behaviour as well. There would have to be a hell of a lot of good stuff there to keep me within that dynamic. I would disagree with you. This is the parent that didn’t abandon him. He’s a DA working within himself to better understand and become more secure. He doesn’t know that’s his battle, he doesn’t have a name for it, but he is aware and doesn’t like these feelings and reactions within himself. Having come to know them the last year, I would say his relationship with his father is why he is reaching and striving to change that within himself. He isn’t outwardly grieving. He skipped grieving altogether other than the one moment the night his father died.
And duly noted. There was a lot of good within our dynamic. We spent a year together when he only dates for two or three months tops, and doesn’t introduce to friends or family. I am an Anxious wanting to reunite with an avoidant. Please? What are the red flags you saw? I posted as honestly as I could specifically to gain feedback like this. Please help me?
Of course, these are gross generalisations, but why would a dismissive avoidant see the need to work on themselves unless they’re fully aware? Their self esteem is such that nothing is wrong with them. Fearful, on the other hand (me), low self esteem, so I love to be loved, but get too close and I get triggered into avoidance.
