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Post by tnr9 on Oct 15, 2020 16:11:09 GMT
Hey Mary.....I have not seen Juni in ages. Actually I haven’t seen any of the regulars from this board in ages.....hope you are well. Aw, a whole new batch of people, hunh. I don't know, I think it was the quarantine that made me think about this board again. Thank you. I hope you are well too. I am doing really well actually. I want to thank you for all of your insight....it has made me more aware of how my actions and behavior may overstep another person’s boundaries. 😍😍. I do hope you stick around. |
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Post by maryisback on Oct 15, 2020 18:24:18 GMT
Aw, a whole new batch of people, hunh. I don't know, I think it was the quarantine that made me think about this board again. Thank you. I hope you are well too. I am doing really well actually. I want to thank you for all of your insight....it has made me more aware of how my actions and behavior may overstep another person’s boundaries. 😍😍. I do hope you stick around. I'm happy you gained some insight and are doing well. I will stick around for a bit...you know I can't make any long term commitments haha! |
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Post by maryt on Oct 16, 2020 11:27:47 GMT
I am doing really well actually. I want to thank you for all of your insight....it has made me more aware of how my actions and behavior may overstep another person’s boundaries. 😍😍. I do hope you stick around. I'm happy you gained some insight and are doing well. I will stick around for a bit...you know I can't make any long term commitments haha! That comment is fantastic! And reminds me again how my current bf also struggles with that subject. Poor guys gets migraines from it. 😅🤷🏻♀️ Glad to see you’re back. |
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Post by maryisback on Oct 16, 2020 13:42:57 GMT
I'm happy you gained some insight and are doing well. I will stick around for a bit...you know I can't make any long term commitments haha! That comment is fantastic! And reminds me again how my current bf also struggles with that subject. Poor guys gets migraines from it. 😅🤷🏻♀️ Glad to see you’re back. Thanks! Yes, it's true but I can also laugh about it.  |
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Post by goldilocks on Oct 17, 2020 19:27:04 GMT
Waves...
How have you been?
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Post by tnr9 on Oct 18, 2020 11:24:52 GMT
Waves... How have you been? I know this was intended for Mary...but welcome back goldilocks . Wow....missed you both. The boards haven’t been the same without you. Do you know how juni is doing? |
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Post by maryisback on Oct 18, 2020 19:51:00 GMT
Waves... How have you been? Goldilocks !!!! I'm great except for the social distancing lol. How the heck are you ? |
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Post by goldilocks on Oct 18, 2020 20:56:19 GMT
I´m good, cocooning and working from home. I do miss my mom but otherwise kind of enjoy the slower pace.
Hi tnr9, how are you?
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Post by tnr9 on Oct 19, 2020 2:18:35 GMT
I´m good, cocooning and working from home. I do miss my mom but otherwise kind of enjoy the slower pace. Hi tnr9, how are you? I am doing really well. I am in therapy, my relationship with my mom has improved, I haven’t been in touch with B in over a year (I heard he got married after 9 months of dating someone). . How are you? |
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Post by maryisback on Oct 19, 2020 15:01:36 GMT
I´m good, cocooning and working from home. I do miss my mom but otherwise kind of enjoy the slower pace. Hi tnr9, how are you? I am doing really well. I am in therapy, my relationship with my mom has improved, I haven’t been in touch with B in over a year (I heard he got married after 9 months of dating someone). . How are you? I'm happy you have not been in touch with B. I hope that chapter is closed for you. |
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Post by goldilocks on Oct 19, 2020 15:17:42 GMT
That is indeed good to hear!
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Post by tnr9 on Oct 19, 2020 16:06:27 GMT
I am doing really well. I am in therapy, my relationship with my mom has improved, I haven’t been in touch with B in over a year (I heard he got married after 9 months of dating someone). . How are you? I'm happy you have not been in touch with B. I hope that chapter is closed for you. It is.....working through the fantasy B with my therapist with the goal of learning what to look out for in the future....put another way...trying to leave the enchanted forest for good. 😀 |
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Post by maryisback on Oct 20, 2020 0:22:59 GMT
I'm happy you have not been in touch with B. I hope that chapter is closed for you. It is.....working through the fantasy B with my therapist with the goal of learning what to look out for in the future....put another way...trying to leave the enchanted forest for good. 😀 I am sure it has been really difficult working through that. It does seem you are so much stronger now 🙂 |
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Post by tnr9 on Oct 20, 2020 2:50:12 GMT
It is.....working through the fantasy B with my therapist with the goal of learning what to look out for in the future....put another way...trying to leave the enchanted forest for good. 😀 I am sure it has been really difficult working through that. It does seem you are so much stronger now 🙂 I am because this time I am done trying to change myself to fit into someone else’s square. I told my mom that we have nothing in common and that was a light bulb moment for her. We have since let go of trying to be anything but who we are. I try to be very much aware of her boundaries without taking them personally and she has stopped making suggestions that I would resist. We actually joke about it...she will say “I think...” and say the exact opposite like, “I think you should eat a ton of junk food”. And her letting go of suggestions has given me space to find out what I want to do on my own. I am growing up....and becoming “me”.....not me trying to run towards some guy or me trying to run away from my parents expectations...but just me as I am. |
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Post by maryisback on Oct 20, 2020 13:48:14 GMT
I am sure it has been really difficult working through that. It does seem you are so much stronger now 🙂 I am because this time I am done trying to change myself to fit into someone else’s square. I told my mom that we have nothing in common and that was a light bulb moment for her. We have since let go of trying to be anything but who we are. I try to be very much aware of her boundaries without taking them personally and she has stopped making suggestions that I would resist. We actually joke about it...she will say “I think...” and say the exact opposite like, “I think you should eat a ton of junk food”. And her letting go of suggestions has given me space to find out what I want to do on my own. I am growing up....and becoming “me”.....not me trying to run towards some guy or me trying to run away from my parents expectations...but just me as I am. Wow, I'm glad your mom had that light bulb moment. Do you think that has helped you heal or grow? They say a lot stems from our relationship with our parents or parent. I have not been able to get through to my mom in any way, shape or form, so I decided it was better for my mental health to have limited interactions. I always wished it could be different. |
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