Post by ohboy on Aug 17, 2023 18:54:52 GMT
I'm a DA in the healing process. I am in my 60's. Was married for almost 25 years who woke up one day and said he didn't want to be married anymore. Professionally I am a "problem solver". If you watch the show "Billions", I am the "Wendy" in at the Corporate level. I have the tactical skills to bring people, even highly emotional people together. I knew nothing about attachment theory. I had gone through an extremely difficult 3 year period (loss/death of loved ones, COVID isolation, extreme work stress, internal stress due to my own coping style failing, relationship stress, etc that lead me to the edge of a mental health break. In essence my DA coping style damn near killed me!
I engaged in talk therapist to try and understand what and how I had allowed that to happen. The only thing I knew is I felt numb. I actually downloaded a feelings wheel to try and understand what I was feeling. After 6 weeks of checking myself I discovered that I WAS numb because I could not identify any emotion that I was experiencing. When the therapist asked me what I wanted to talk about my response was, "I don't know but something is WRONG. So I began therapy completely open to truly exploring what that was. In talk therapy:
I discovered patterns that permeated all areas of my life
I explored the reasons for my patterns.......which lead me to my childhood
I met, engaged, welcomed and appreciated my "little self"
I learned to allow all of my emotions to come back to the surface and I learned to allow myself to fully experience them without restraint
I identified my triggers and their connection to fear, abandonment or other unmet needs as well as "where" I experience them in my body
I learned to recoginze when I am experiencing a trigger real time and adjust my response (I don't always succeed)
I am learning to manage my emotions in a new way
I am now doing Somanic therapy as a way to desensitize myself to some of these triggers. I don't expect that they will all go away, I just don't want to be hyper sensitive to them
Hope this helps
I engaged in talk therapist to try and understand what and how I had allowed that to happen. The only thing I knew is I felt numb. I actually downloaded a feelings wheel to try and understand what I was feeling. After 6 weeks of checking myself I discovered that I WAS numb because I could not identify any emotion that I was experiencing. When the therapist asked me what I wanted to talk about my response was, "I don't know but something is WRONG. So I began therapy completely open to truly exploring what that was. In talk therapy:
I discovered patterns that permeated all areas of my life
I explored the reasons for my patterns.......which lead me to my childhood
I met, engaged, welcomed and appreciated my "little self"
I learned to allow all of my emotions to come back to the surface and I learned to allow myself to fully experience them without restraint
I identified my triggers and their connection to fear, abandonment or other unmet needs as well as "where" I experience them in my body
I learned to recoginze when I am experiencing a trigger real time and adjust my response (I don't always succeed)
I am learning to manage my emotions in a new way
I am now doing Somanic therapy as a way to desensitize myself to some of these triggers. I don't expect that they will all go away, I just don't want to be hyper sensitive to them
Hope this helps